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Post by Mr. Emoticon Man, TF Fan on Apr 26, 2011 20:46:47 GMT -5
This seems like a bad situation all around. I think you'd both be better off if you went your separate ways.
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Post by Efren on Apr 26, 2011 20:47:59 GMT -5
You should have dumped her yesterday. You have little-to-no respect for each other. This, you shouldnt have spied on her, she shouldnt have told you she got rid of it to hide stuff from you. Things can only go downhill from here.
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Post by Brain Of F'n J on Apr 26, 2011 20:49:22 GMT -5
DTMFA.
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Post by Kash Flagg on Apr 26, 2011 20:52:51 GMT -5
This thread didn't turn out too well did it?
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Apr 26, 2011 20:52:26 GMT -5
she probably was using you to make the ex jealous
sounds nuts
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 26, 2011 20:57:37 GMT -5
It's not the biggest crime guys.
Had I gotten in it could of opened up my eyes a little.
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Post by rapidfire187 on Apr 26, 2011 21:03:23 GMT -5
Do you think she will still speak to me? First off she has no proof and no idea it was me who tried to add her, but I have a fake facebook account and found out she was using Facebook again after she told me she had closed it. She had her ex boyfriend on there and somehow blocked me but my fake name found her. I tried to add her as a friend with the fake name and she phoned me ten minutes later trying to see my reaction I guess. She had been kinda quiet not speaking with me all day. She phoned up so I felt weird and she asked me to tell me my full name so she could add me on facebook. I felt a bit nervous and she might of knew but tried talking about other stuff. She spoke casually about a few things and explained to me she was back on(as if she could tell why) and told me how she took it off because of her ex boyfriend but now he has stopped annoying her. Her phone cut off(always does) and when I tried to call back she didn't pick up lol. I learned that she only phoned me to test if it was me and didn't even ask how my day was. Just shows how important I am! So is it weird if she thinks it's me? plus do you think she would, there is no proof?? I did tell her last week I had a friend with a very similar name to the fake account(forgot how similar) and I called her few hours before I added her with the fake name. It's been 2 months and she is losing interest and things are not going anywhere really. She refers to herself as single and s*** but acts like we are going out, well she did. I do like her alot but can see her thinking it was me or one of my friends. A lot of that just sounds bad man. Now, I can totally understand using creative internet spy techniques for stuff like this...but if there's one thing I've learned throughout my history of dating cheaters it's this: If you have to resort to this type of thing, chances are that it's not going to work. Either A.) She has given you serious reasons to not trust her, but you don't have the balls to break up...so you're looking for more dirt. And at some point you'll find what you've been looking for, and it's going to hurt you and you'll finally dump her. Or B.) You have trust issues and are invading her personal space. In which case she'll probably get fed up and dump you. A few other things that struck me as odd from your post: 1.) She blocked you from her facebook page. If she's "your girl" why on Earth would she block you? How did she explain it? It sounds like you're not telling the full story, or you're being incredibly naive. At the end of your post you say that she "refers to herself as single and s***"...well that should be a pretty big clue right there. 2.) You gave yourself away by talking about your "friend" with the name similar to the fake account. You're clearly not very good at the spying thing, so this causes a few problems. For one, she's probably pissed at you for spying. For two, whatever you were possibly going to catch her doing isn't going to happen now because you blew your cover. 3.) What are you even trying to find by pretending to be somebody else? Final thought here...I'm guessing/hoping that you're young. Like...high school age. In that case your obsessive behavior is semi-understandable. But if you're an adult and you're acting this way over a woman you really need to stop. Best case scenario is that you're going to wind up hurt and embarrassed, worst case scenario is that you'll have stalking charges added to that.
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Post by RedSmile on Apr 26, 2011 21:05:39 GMT -5
You aren't good with taking hints are you? Even when they are written on the wall in big red letters.
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Post by Efren on Apr 26, 2011 21:05:29 GMT -5
I agree with you, its not a HUGE deal, you felt you were being made a fool of, then you realized you were in fact at least being made a fool about her closing the account, probably a little bit more depending on her reasons to block you. It doesnt make you some huge confidence betraying douche bag but it does make you someone that shouldnt be with her no more, just end it like right f***ing now. It can only go downhill for real.
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Post by emoney3265 on Apr 26, 2011 21:08:32 GMT -5
This seems like a bad situation all around. I think you'd both be better off if you went your separate ways. Like this?
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Post by rapidfire187 on Apr 26, 2011 21:10:22 GMT -5
Nevermind, I just read that you're 27. Dude...seriously...27? In the words of Danny Glover, you're too old for this s***.
How exactly is she "acting like you're going out"? Are you sleeping together? That would certainly justify your feelings a little. But you do realize that sometimes women just like to have male friends right? It sucks when you get mixed signals, but at this point you're screwing things up irreparably.
It makes me wonder why she bothered to lie to you about her facebook thing. Somehow I'm doubting that there wasn't some sort of issue before she told you she quit using it. I'm guessing that you got jealous over something (the ex boyfriend probably) and persuaded her to quit using it.
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Post by funkycoldmadina on Apr 26, 2011 21:12:39 GMT -5
it was over the minute she asked for your full name. That's something you should know prior to a relationship. This was my thought as well. If it's not a one night stand, she probably knows my full name.
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Post by Efren on Apr 26, 2011 21:13:46 GMT -5
Hints are not necessarily she wants to break up with him, shes likely a cheater tho.
I knew this girl, she was according to her "incredibly in love" with her bf, but shes a huge tease, dozens of guys would write flirty stuff on her wall and she would write back, BF asked her to get rid of it, she did for like a week then she blocked him an anyone remotely related to him, so it would appear closed, non existent to him, doesnt mean she wanted to break up with the guy, it just means she wanted to have her cake and eat it too.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 26, 2011 21:14:53 GMT -5
The reason she gave me to kind of wonder was when she said last week she invited her ex boyfriend round because she wanted to see him and she was drunk and he was in her bedroom. This was after she was with me and I can't help but start to doubt the trust after that. She said to me "you are not ignoring me are you, it's just my ex" bla bla. Telling me how she thinks he has changed etc.
When I spoke about my friend last week it had nothing to do with me adding her with the fake name. I mentioned this guy kept sending me girls facebooks names and I mentioned his name but she probably forgot. Then I remembered after this whole thing that the name for the fake account is pretty much the same as my friend.
Also yeah she mentions recently she is single but does imply that we are seeing eachother and that there is something going on. When we go to work she can't talk to me like the rest of the guy because she knows how she feels.
We started travelling and meeting eachother before work etc and when she gave me a lift back last week she was playing all these songs in her car and going "This is our song" and shit like that. She is one big mind f*** though I sat in that car and refused to kiss me and was laughing and shit putting her head down and kissing my forearm and all that crap.
I just hope she doesn't assume it's me, and I know ringing me so soon was a sign. The conversation was fake she didn't ask much but I did remember her asking "what I was doing?" lol
She also sounded guilty like she had to explain herself and when she asked for my name and I knew she wasn't going to add me with her ex boyfriend on there and all that. She just loves playing her games.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Apr 26, 2011 21:15:30 GMT -5
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Post by Efren on Apr 26, 2011 21:17:29 GMT -5
Duuuuuuuuuuuuuump her! Dude, dump her like rigth f***ing now.
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Post by funkycoldmadina on Apr 26, 2011 21:19:47 GMT -5
The reason she gave me to kind of wonder was when she said last week she invited her ex boyfriend round because she wanted to see him and she was drunk and he was in her bedroom. This was after she was with me and I can't help but start to doubt the trust after that. She said to me "you are not ignoring me are you, it's just my ex" bla bla. Telling me how she thinks he has changed etc. When I spoke about my friend last week it had nothing to do with me adding her with the fake name. I mentioned this guy kept sending me girls facebooks names and I mentioned his name but she probably forgot. Then I remembered after this whole thing that the name for the fake account is pretty much the same as my friend. Also yeah she mentions recently she is single but does imply that we are seeing eachother and that there is something going on. When we go to work she can't talk to me like the rest of the guy because she knows how she feels. We started travelling and meeting eachother before work etc and when she gave me a lift back last week she was playing all these songs in her car and going "This is our song" and s*** like that. She is one big mind f*** though I sat in that car and refused to kiss me and was laughing and s*** putting her head down and kissing my forearm and all that crap. I just hope she doesn't assume it's me, and I know ringing me so soon was a sign. The conversation was fake she didn't ask much but I did remember her asking "what I was doing?" lol She also sounded guilty like she had to explain herself and when she asked for my name and I knew she wasn't going to add me with her ex boyfriend on there and all that. She just loves playing her games. Dude, please, for the love of God, explain the full name thing. How in the hell do you date someone for two months and NOT know their full name. Something is really, really off here. Do you and this chick talk on CB radios only, ergo you only use handles? The previous posts didn't sound like it was an online relationship, but even if it was, why not give her your full name if you are 27? Man, I am just confused as hell here without even commenting on the spying and what have you.
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Post by Realtalk on Apr 26, 2011 21:22:53 GMT -5
She first got talking to me through FB after I gave it to her at work, I assumed she knew my surname. I wish I could get rid of her....It's just her personality and look......can't shake it.
If her charisma is up there. Tit and ass and loves video games. So f***ing cool despite this crap.
She has let every little thing get between us though, like weeks back when I told her this guy at work was telling me she was calling him, she got all defensive and told me how she doesn't have to explain herself to anyone.
Prior to this, just days before she was literally sucking my knob verbally through txt, saying how much she missed me. It was ON right there and then intil I mentioned that guy and we haven't been the same since. That lead to her bring up how she just wanted to be friends and nothing else. It was BS, week prior she was ON IT.
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Apr 26, 2011 21:23:53 GMT -5
Sounds like neither of you have a very clear understanding of what your expectations were of this relationship, both from yourselves or from the other party. You either need to sit down and clear the air and have a grown up conversation about your misgivings and what you expect and wish to happen from here on out, or you need to break up. Presuming that you're not bending the truth to your favor here (which is being generous on my end, to say the least), neither of you are giving each other the trust, honesty, and open communication that is absolutely necessary in even a marginally successful relationship. At the current moment, this is dysfunctional at best, and will become woefully hurtful for both of you at worst.
Spying, really? How distrustful are you? Do you have your own fears or jealous tendencies that you're not communicating?
You won't be recruited by the CIA anytime soon. You conveniently mention that you have a friend with a very similar name, and then that certain friend adds her on Facebook? Why don't you just send the message and go "SURPRISE! IT'S ME!" too?
At any rate, your Spy Who Knew Too Little act aside, both of you better be taking a long, honest, and deep look into what has gone wrong (as well as right) in this relationship, figure out what you're both wanting and/or expecting, and make an honest and courageous decision as to what will benefit you both the most.
Just remember...
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It's a waste of time, and it annoys the pig.
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Apr 26, 2011 21:25:48 GMT -5
Wait, is this the same girl from the other thread deal?
Seriously?
Something literal can't be verbal and vise versa.
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