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Post by The Booty Disciple on Apr 26, 2011 22:00:19 GMT -5
Well, jeeze. I think I'm done here. The OP is going to twist this as many ways as he wants to make himself appear the victim at present, regardless of our objective and honest opinions on the situation. We offer up a differing way think about things that might give some insight, and he rationalizes things away. We're not going to win here, ladies and gentleman. You can lead a horse to water, but the horse will still crap on the garden hose. It bears repeating... Never try to teach a pig to sing. It's a waste of time, and it annoys the pig. To be fair, I've had a similar situation, and people would tell me the same thing, and I'd rationalize it away. Logic doesn't get through. At all. It's a wall, and I'm not trying to be insulting, I know, and others probably know too. There is no reasoning with someone in that situation. Nope, but beating a dead horse is just as productive. Logic can't trump emotion. Sure, it can overcome it if you're willing to gut p and deal with it, for certain, but that doesn't always change the feelings that motivated it. I'm fully aware of that, an sensitive to it. However, when every moment we offer up a differing opinion, and an individual is doing the posting equivalent of putting their fingers in their ears and going "la-la-la-la-la-la" while continuing to ignore his and her shortcomings in their relationship (be it friendship or romantically involved) when it comes to communication, honesty, trust, and clearer understandings of themselves and the other person (which generally stem from those other things), it just makes a thread like this go nowhere fast. I've been there too. Hell, I was a wreck from the middle of last summer through most of fall due to my breakup, and I empathize. But what finally got through to me was the idea that people are TRYING to help, and even if the execution is wrong or you don't agree with them, the motivation is right. Hence the quote about pigs and singing...Heinlein quote from Time Enough For Love, which I've always boiled down to a metaphor for the idea that if the person, whether by choice or by nature, is incapable of learning or at least making the attempt at objectively taking in new information, then you're wasting your time and theirs, and pushing them farther away by putting them on the defense (annoying the pig). Besides, there's so many things wrong with this relationship right now, regardless of where they're at in terms of friendship or romantic involvement or outright enemies, I'm worried that this gentleman is confused more about himself than he is about the relationship. If she said she only wants to be friends, then you're already broken up with. You're not trying to keep from "breaking up," you're just ignoring what has already happened. Trust me, this is the voice of experience speaking...if that's the case, you'll only make things worse and run a much higher risk of completely motivating her to leave your life entirely. Proceed with caution and an acute sense of propriety, something you've been lacking in your misguided and poorly executed failed James Bond routine. EDIT: Who the hell has a fake Facebook profile for three years? What the hell other creepy crap are you up to? Good lord, man! I hope that information doesn't get out, and for your sake, I hope she doesn't have a freaked out streak in her, because this behavior could ostensibly be in violation of cyber-stalking laws in various jurisdictions.
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Post by FUNK_US/BRODUS on Apr 26, 2011 22:02:07 GMT -5
People like this are why "Im desperate and single" threads will always show up on here. Your maturity level is simply shocking. the fact that you deduced that you were in a relationship after a date, a makeout session, and a few lifts to work is mindblowing.
The clinginess, the constant calling, the fake facebook profile. You honestly sound like a girls worst nightmare.
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Post by ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul on Apr 26, 2011 22:04:06 GMT -5
Oh Kash! *Cue canned laughter and me looking at the camera*
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Post by Hypnotix on Apr 26, 2011 22:09:27 GMT -5
She's cheatin' dude. Been there, done that, got the divorce decree to prove it. Cut it off and move on.
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Post by LCR, Formerly Blue Nova on Apr 26, 2011 22:11:42 GMT -5
She's cheatin' dude. Been there, done that, got the divorce decree to prove it. Cut it off and move on. Just a parsing of a word choice. Technically, it can't be cheating if they were never officially together.
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Post by Citizen Snips Has Left on Apr 26, 2011 22:13:39 GMT -5
Maybe it's me, but having a "fake" Facebook account for any reason is pretty sad and/or creepy in of itself.
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Post by The Booty Disciple on Apr 26, 2011 22:15:29 GMT -5
Maybe it's me, but having a "fake" Facebook account for any reason is pretty sad and/or creepy in of itself. No way, dude, I've got more friends on my fake FB than I do on my real one. For some reason, everyone wants to be friends with Buck Naked!
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Post by Hypnotix on Apr 26, 2011 22:16:01 GMT -5
She's cheatin' dude. Been there, done that, got the divorce decree to prove it. Cut it off and move on. Just a parsing of a word choice. Technically, it can't be cheating if they were never officially together. Oh they're not officially together? Lol. Yeah dude, go find a bar and grab a few beers. Give up on this one.
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Post by Johnny Truant on Apr 26, 2011 22:16:13 GMT -5
This is creepy as all hell, dude. I'm 17 and I wouldn't do that kind of stuff, it's obvious that she just wants to be friends.
Also, this?
I haven't laughed that hard in a long time.
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Post by LCR, Formerly Blue Nova on Apr 26, 2011 22:17:45 GMT -5
Just a parsing of a word choice. Technically, it can't be cheating if they were never officially together. Oh they're not officially together? Lol. Yeah dude, go find a bar and grab a few beers. Give up on this one. Long story short, they went on a date and she gave him a couple rides. He thought they were in a relationship. She said she was single. After while, said she just wanted to be friends and here he is still pining away and not getting the point to move on.
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Post by The Ichi on Apr 26, 2011 22:19:39 GMT -5
Oh they're not officially together? Lol. Yeah dude, go find a bar and grab a few beers. Give up on this one. Long story short, they went on a date and she gave him a couple rides. He thought they were in a relationship. She said she was single. After while, said she just wanted to be friends and here he is still pining away and not getting the point to move on. Geez, if that stuff happened to me I'd never be complaining.
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Post by Citizen Snips Has Left on Apr 26, 2011 22:20:39 GMT -5
Maybe it's me, but having a "fake" Facebook account for any reason is pretty sad and/or creepy in of itself. No way, dude, I've got more friends on my fake FB than I do on my real one. For some reason, everyone wants to be friends with Buck Naked! The exception that proves the rule!
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Post by Efren on Apr 26, 2011 22:28:16 GMT -5
Geesshhhhh, I tough we were talking about an actual relationship, not about a girl you made out with and then decided she was your gf in your mind. Dude, just leave the poor gal alone.
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Post by FUNK_US/BRODUS on Apr 26, 2011 22:29:20 GMT -5
Geesshhhhh, I tough we were talking about an actual relationship, not about a girl you made out with and then decided she was your gf in your mind. Dude, just leave the poor gal alone. This. It sounds closer to a 12 year old who has never been kissed before than a 27 year old.
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Post by Hypnotix on Apr 26, 2011 22:53:20 GMT -5
Long story short, they went on a date and she gave him a couple rides. He thought they were in a relationship. She said she was single. After while, said she just wanted to be friends and here he is still pining away and not getting the point to move on. Geez, if that stuff happened to me I'd never be complaining. Oh yeah man. That's called a F-buddy. Live that s*** up. *sending a friend request to Buck Naked*
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Post by LCR, Formerly Blue Nova on Apr 26, 2011 22:57:41 GMT -5
By rides, I meant car rides -- to work. Not sex. LOL.
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Post by Hypnotix on Apr 26, 2011 23:03:10 GMT -5
I don't like to read a lot, okay.
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Post by emoney3265 on Apr 26, 2011 23:12:04 GMT -5
I don't like to read a lot, okay. Mmkay... I think I can clear this whole matter up.
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Post by corndog on Apr 26, 2011 23:46:00 GMT -5
She is banging her ex-boyfriend and other guys too. She's having sex with everyone, except for you. You stalked her on facebook and blow up her phone. Unless you want arrested, you should leave her alone. But she picks you up and gives you rides for free. It's better than getting an incurable STD.
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Post by noleafclover1980 on Apr 27, 2011 0:16:20 GMT -5
Good god almightly, you're this sprung over a date and makeout session, god forbid if she gave it up. For all of our sake, stay out of the Ladies of Wrestlecrap thread lol
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