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Post by agent817 on Oct 16, 2011 11:40:55 GMT -5
Another example, my ex is my age and she is married to a guy who is 17 years older than both of us.
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Post by Dave the Dave on Oct 16, 2011 11:42:42 GMT -5
Yeah, if that's the rule, I at 22 can barely date an 18 year old.
I say go for it if you want, but hell, I hated dating 18 year old girls, yes GIRLS, when I was 18. Maybe it's just where I'm from, but the one I was dating from high school into college: started drinking (used to hate it), dumped me and started having sex (wanted to wait till marriage) and basically became a new person. SHe was a church going nice girl.
THat's not an isolated case. Girls go to college and change completely. Boys do too. It just seems like girls go off the deep end more. My current girlfriend luckily is at 23 and past all that bullshit, god knows if I would have like her at 18.
My personal stories aside, I say go for it, and I don't want to use the term keep a tight leash, but you're gonna have to if she's off in a big new world without you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2011 11:49:03 GMT -5
Yeah, if that's the rule, I at 22 can barely date an 18 year old. I say go for it if you want, but hell, I hated dating 18 year old girls, yes GIRLS, when I was 18. Maybe it's just where I'm from, but the one I was dating from high school into college: started drinking (used to hate it), dumped me and started having sex (wanted to wait till marriage) and basically became a new person. SHe was a church going nice girl. THat's not an isolated case. Girls go to college and change completely. Boys do too. It just seems like girls go off the deep end more. My current girlfriend luckily is at 23 and past all that bulls***, god knows if I would have like her at 18. My personal stories aside, I say go for it, and I don't want to use the term keep a tight leash, but you're gonna have to if she's off in a big new world without you. yeah thats another thing im worried about...all the temptations of college...shes living in a dorm and everything at the school and im 20 minutes away...id have absolutely no idea what goes on when im with her...but i have to give her the benefit of the doubt
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Post by agent817 on Oct 16, 2011 13:55:51 GMT -5
Being a guy who lacks a lot of relationship experience, even I can remember back when I was 21 when I "dated" a girl for two weeks who was only a year younger than me. A friend of mine told me that I should try with someone younger like an 18 year old to try to "move up" in the dating world, like "starting from the bottom." Of course, even back then, I was skeptical about dating an 18 year old.
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Post by zeez on Oct 16, 2011 13:59:39 GMT -5
If you like her and the age doesn't bother you then go for it. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Just make sure you get to know her well before you start talking long-term with her. She may seem mature for her age but you can't always tell what kind of person someone will ultimately become once they've gotten into the college state of mind. Despite that, I'd still go for it and see where it leads.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2011 14:03:42 GMT -5
You take your age, divided by two plus 7. So you're good.
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Post by King Ghidorah on Oct 16, 2011 14:04:36 GMT -5
College freshman and 18? Have fun with the drama train. Good luck.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2011 14:49:01 GMT -5
You take your age, divided by two plus 7. So you're good. actually im 26 so that doesnt work out either lol
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Oct 16, 2011 15:05:42 GMT -5
Just have fun. Sure, she'll be going through changes, but so will you... Not like you plan to marry her tomorrow or anything. Enjoy life. If it doesn't work out, you'll come out of it with some good memories and a some experience with an age gap. BTW, you're never going to cease finding 18 year olds attractive if that's what you're into... it'll just be harder to hook up with them when you're 50
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Post by Slingshot Suplay on Oct 16, 2011 17:07:25 GMT -5
It's playing Russian Roulette when you mess with anyone that young. While they may seem "mature" and have goals in mind, people's likes and dislikes can change drastically between 18 and 21. There are alot of teens who have never experienced the world outside of their city or state and have never really experienced the real world and the pressures it brings. They might like to be with a mature, older person for a couple of years, but if their feelings change about you in those crutical years, you might be left by yourself when you're 35 because she wants a younger man who might be "more her speed".
I've seen it happen before, granted it doesn't happen every time.
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Oct 16, 2011 17:11:37 GMT -5
Just go for it. I figure as long as they are out of high school then its all good. Sure it might not work out but not every relationship has to be forever. It can be but doesn't have to be as the goal changes further in your journey.
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Post by FUNK_US/BRODUS on Oct 17, 2011 10:38:01 GMT -5
Half your age plus 7.
12.5 + 7 = 19. Sorry, bro.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2011 10:50:53 GMT -5
My wife is five years younger than me. There is really nothing wrong with it. If you like each other, than go for it.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2011 11:03:37 GMT -5
You take your age, divided by two plus 7. So you're good. actually im 26 so that doesnt work out either lol Ah, its borerline - just do it.
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Post by trollrogue on Oct 17, 2011 11:42:29 GMT -5
Currently dating a girl 11 years younger. I could not give any less of a f*** what anybody else says to me about our age difference.
If this girl makes you feel the same way, then date her. If the age difference seems like a big hurdle to you, you're just not that into her and shouldn't really bother.
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Post by Triple H buried SnS on Oct 17, 2011 12:19:36 GMT -5
So i met this really attractive college student who is 18 years old and we went on a date and really hit it off and now she is telling me she wants to be with me...I am 26 years old and am a little leery right now as to how others would look at it...I'm afraid im going to be looked at as a total pervert or something...Anyone have any experience with these large age gaps? I was 26 when I started dating my (then) girlfriend of 18. That was 5 years ago. Your biggest concern would be her family(if you are thinking long term). I lucked out, cause in my case, her parents were 10 years apart in age. Don't worry about everyone else.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2011 12:26:50 GMT -5
She is legal age. Go for it. Who cares what everyone else thinks? You're not doing anything wrong.
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Post by HMARK Center on Oct 17, 2011 12:53:31 GMT -5
In my experience, I haven't had all the best experiences going out with younger girls, but I'm not sure how much of that was age and how much was just their (or my own) personalities.
I know for one of them it was gross immaturity that really hampered things, but the other just had too suspicious a mind for my liking. Actually went on a date recently with a 19 year old (I'm 26) and had a pretty good time, but it's hard to imagine committing to somebody who's still at such a young age...yes, she's legal, but she's going to change more as a person in the next two years than I will in the next five, most likely.
Just realize that when you date a younger person (guy or girl, doesn't matter), they're going to change a lot, as they should. Accept that, and it should be ok, but if its a problem, don't be surprised when it pops up.
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Post by noleafclover1980 on Oct 17, 2011 14:00:03 GMT -5
If you have to ask the question... then you're too old. Ok... I don't wanna sound like a womanizer... but if it's just for a romp in the sack or two... who cares? But if it's for something serious you have to factor in you are at two totally different stages in life... you're most likely slowing down on the whole partying thing in mid-late 20's and she's just entering her prime. She's going to be away from her parents for the first time (if she's away for college) and will want to make the most of it... it's hard to keep up w/ as you get older.
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Post by YAKMAN is ICHIBAN on Oct 17, 2011 14:16:52 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever dated someone younger than myself, but that might be because my birthday is in October so I was almost always the youngest in my grade.
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