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Post by Red Impact on Oct 17, 2011 21:03:15 GMT -5
Personally, I don't think the half+7 rule is a very good one. I think the age gap matters less and less once you get older, and any rule should reflect that. It's really not creepy for a 30 year old to be dating a 45 year old. So I would propose the 1.5x rule, multiple the younger person's age by 1.5 and if you're equal to or less than that age, it's not weird.
Ultimately though, if it does work out for you, it won't matter in 10 years what age you were when you started it.
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Post by The Legend of Groose on Oct 17, 2011 21:54:44 GMT -5
I'd say double the age, So if your 18 then 36 is the limit.
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Post by Can you afford to pay me, Gah on Oct 17, 2011 22:14:03 GMT -5
Age is only a number as long it legal. My example is this. The person I'm seeing. We are earily stages of a relationship. Two dates in. She's 18 and I'm 28. One of the things we did talk about before I asked her out. Was just that. The age thing. I felt weird at first because I thought she be freaked out. But then she told me about her parents being 15 years apart.
I think it depends on the person and not the number. If you connect, that all that matters. If someone is against it, who cares if you and that person are happy.
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Post by Cela on Oct 17, 2011 22:26:31 GMT -5
Half your age plus 8.
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Post by Dat Dude on Oct 17, 2011 22:39:06 GMT -5
Depends on the person. Last year, I dated two women (not at the same time) who were both 21 when I was 25. One of which on our first date asked "So what do you're parents think about you dating younger women?". While the other never brought the subject of age at all. People can be weird like that sometimes. But I know for a fact that there was a huge difference in my maturity and perspective on life when I was 18 to what I'm now at now (26).
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Post by Magician under the moonlight on Oct 17, 2011 23:07:42 GMT -5
While we are on the subject, I have a 17 year old friend who is dating a 25 year old man, who is as old as me. However, she is really mature and all, but I would never do that. As long as there are no funny business going on.
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Post by bigmackdaddy on Oct 18, 2011 1:37:09 GMT -5
You shouldn't date anyone over 29 if you are 18, just because.
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Post by Throwback on Oct 18, 2011 1:43:35 GMT -5
I'm 8 years younger than my g/f. Most people didn't even realize the age difference until we were together 4 years
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Post by ANTLOL on Oct 18, 2011 8:51:08 GMT -5
If you're both legal and no one of you is a whore it's ok. The only times I find huge age gaps among adult partners disgusting is when it's obvious that some skank whore dates a much older dirtbag for his money.
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Post by Bo Rida on Oct 18, 2011 10:36:16 GMT -5
Warning the following is a huge and mostly inaccurate generalisation based on one friend’s experience that may contain a grain of truth:
Another thing to consider is that she MAY not have had as much life experience and isn’t as jaded with the world. Therefore all her emotions and reactions could be heightened, that may be a good thing but could lead to her falling in love faster than you, being more idealistic and making a bigger deal about insignificant fights, events or comments.
That's a long way of saying its fine but be careful about accidently leading her on.
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Post by agent817 on Oct 18, 2011 15:38:46 GMT -5
Regarding being legal and at least 18, I often think of this:
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2011 16:30:35 GMT -5
My feeling is that 22 is the maximum age anyone can date an 18 year old. After that it gets odd, sad, and depressing.
Example of weird dating: This dude I've known since Kindergarten now has to deal with the fact that his nearly 50 year old dad is dating his 20 year old ex-girlfriend.
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Post by noleafclover1980 on Oct 18, 2011 16:45:40 GMT -5
My feeling is that 22 is the maximum age anyone can date an 18 year old. After that it gets odd, sad, and depressing. Example of weird dating: This dude I've known since Kindergarten now has to deal with the fact that his nearly 50 year old dad is dating his 20 year old ex-girlfriend. That's screwed up on both ends. Bitch move on the ex gf's part for going for his dad, and dick move on his dad's part for doing it.
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Post by Supercheese on Oct 18, 2011 19:18:46 GMT -5
Age is just a number, but remember what someone at that age is looking for in a partner or life is different from you. Don't ruin the best years of your life because you've got a partner who won't let you go out and enjoy yourself. Plus if your a student she'll need to give you space.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Oct 18, 2011 19:37:52 GMT -5
If I were you I'd stop thinking about the 'right'ness since it's technically legal (although I'd think it a bit creepy myself) and consider what the hell the point is. 18 and 26 are very different stages of life, is it really worth dating her at all, or are you not after anything serious? For something more than casual it sounds like it wouldn't be worth doing, honestly, mature or not.
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Post by DXKramer on Oct 18, 2011 19:40:13 GMT -5
I am 30. I have found people younger AND older than me attractive.
As for the mature thing, THAT is all bullshit. I was with someone who was 23 (technically mature) not too long ago, and she was as childish and unreasonable as anyone in their midteens because she not only was inexperienced in dating (I was her first boyfriend), but I felt like I was dating her WHOLE DAMN FAMILY and she expected me to change my life for THEM ALL.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Oct 18, 2011 20:01:02 GMT -5
That's not actually what I meant. I wasn't calling into question her maturity so much as what lengths she's prepared to go to in a relationship that a 26-year-old would also be. Would she want to get serious, move in, even have a drawer with some spare clothes in at your place? I'm not questioning her intelligence or maturity or anything like that, I'm just asking whether you guys would want the same things.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2011 0:02:25 GMT -5
Go for it, dude. If it works out, that's great. If not, at least you guys can enjoy each others company. Sometimes you just gotta put on your "Haters Gon Hate" swag and do what you want.
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Post by Libertine on Oct 19, 2011 6:52:55 GMT -5
I don't see the problem with the age gap in the OP. It's not like a) you'll be walking around town going "HEY EVERYBODY GUESS WHAT AGES WE ARE???" etc and b) yes, you might get a few jokes from friends but that's par the course with male friendship.
Don't make it a bigger issue than it needs to be. I mean, Jesus, I'm 25 and I wish I had some supple 18 year old out to get me.
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