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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 12:44:43 GMT -5
*This is about a girl*
I don't understand it. I asked a girl I've known for the last eight months to go out to lunch. She said she had a hair appointment and not sure if it will work out. How long does that take 2 hours at most? I suggested a different day and that was no good either. She didn't offer any suggestions. I will potentially she her on Friday at a social event. I am so mad I don't even know what I'd say.
Now, I am just sitting home alone with nothing to do.
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 13:04:05 GMT -5
Dude don't trip, hair appointments can take a long time depending on what she's getting done. A cut and color can takes hours sometimes.
If she doesn't take time out for you there is nothing to be offended by. Just because she's known you for 8 months doesn't mean she owes you any of her time. If she's interested she's interested if not oh well.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 13:24:06 GMT -5
I guess getting invited to her birthday and getting into ROH free means nothing either.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2014 13:35:40 GMT -5
I would guess either she's being genuine and has been booked up and you're blowing the whistle a little premmaturely or she's a meek type that is avoiding telling you she's not interested so you won't hate her.
I hate the latter.
No one likes to be shot down, but it's WAY better to get all the cards on the table.
Don't rush to judgement just yet. Go to this thing, feel her out and then decide where you want to take it.
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Post by Push R Truth on Mar 19, 2014 13:43:47 GMT -5
I wouldn't fret too much yet.
Besides, being Batman you should know your luck with women. They always end up dead or just being Catwoman in disguise. Although, she could be Power Girl. If you think she's Power Girl, keep trying!
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 13:53:51 GMT -5
I guess getting invited to her birthday and getting into ROH free means nothing either. It sounds like you friend zoned yourself. How long have you had feelings for this chick and have you let her know about them? If you're just being her friend in hopes of one day tapping it you're not being a genuine friend. Life doesn't work out like those romantic comedies, girls don't just suddenly realize that they should hookup with their male friend because he's been such a "nice" guy towards them. I've learned this the hard way through experience. You need to just sack up and tell her how you feel. If she rejects your advances then you can be a gentleman about and still be friends or be a gentleman and walk away. |
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 14:01:21 GMT -5
I guess getting invited to her birthday and getting into ROH free means nothing either. It sounds like you friend zoned yourself. How long have you had feelings for this chick and have you let her know about them? If you're just being her friend in hopes of one day tapping it you're not being a genuine friend. Life doesn't work out like those romantic comedies, girls don't just suddenly realize that they should hookup with their male friend because he's been such a "nice" guy towards them. I've learned this the hard way through experience. You need to just sack up and tell her how you feel. If she rejects your advances then you can be a gentleman about and still be friends or be a gentleman and walk away. She got me into to the show for free. |
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 14:04:53 GMT -5
It sounds like you friend zoned yourself. How long have you had feelings for this chick and have you let her know about them? If you're just being her friend in hopes of one day tapping it you're not being a genuine friend. Life doesn't work out like those romantic comedies, girls don't just suddenly realize that they should hookup with their male friend because he's been such a "nice" guy towards them. I've learned this the hard way through experience. You need to just sack up and tell her how you feel. If she rejects your advances then you can be a gentleman about and still be friends or be a gentleman and walk away. She got me into to the show for free. That's a nice thing that a friend would do... It doesn't mean she's necessarily interested. You still didn't answer the important question though. Have you told her you're interested in her as more than a friend?. |
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 14:06:43 GMT -5
She got me into to the show for free. That's a nice thing that a friend would do... It doesn't mean she's necessarily interested. You still didn't answer the important question though. Have you told her you're interested in her as more than a friend?. I thought asking someone out, would show that. Maybe I am just not with the times. |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Mar 19, 2014 14:16:29 GMT -5
Asking someone out for lunch is something friends do all the time. Actually asking her out for dinner is more of a date thing.
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Post by shaker on Mar 19, 2014 14:17:27 GMT -5
I guess getting invited to her birthday and getting into ROH free means nothing either. If she's really your friend - you wouldn't be angry at her for having to cancel a single meeting. If you just want sex from her - you'd be angry. The first one is a mature adult's response, the 2nd one is creepy and misogynistic. |
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 14:22:11 GMT -5
Friends reschedule and go to lunch, so I guess we're not even friends?
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 14:27:34 GMT -5
Friends reschedule and go to lunch, so I guess we're not even friends? No, friends understand when scheduling conflicts happen and don't get butthurt if someone cancels on them and can't immediately reschedule. Shit happens man don't think about it too much. |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Mar 19, 2014 14:28:07 GMT -5
I'm not really sure why this seems so hard for you to understand. Not being an asshole here, I just really don't.
- You two have been friends for 8 months.
-She's done friend things like invite you to her birthday party and got you in ROH for free. That's cool.
-You ask her out to lunch and she's busy. That happens. People don't just drop previous appointments to have lunch.
She doesn't see it as you asking her out because you're being vague as f*** about it. She sees this as a friendship because you've made no attempt to let her know you're interested in her otherwise. You asked her out to lunch, not on a date. The women on Sex and the City went out to lunch all the time, and it wasn't a date.
You have no real right to be angry at her for having a previous engagement. You two are friends and nothing more until you let her know you want to take it further. Then she either rejects you and you remain friends or it turns into romance.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 14:34:21 GMT -5
I'm not really sure why this seems so hard for you to understand. Not being an asshole here, I just really don't. - You two have been friends for 8 months. -She's done friend things like invite you to her birthday party and got you in ROH for free. That's cool. -You ask her out to lunch and she's busy. That happens. People don't just drop previous appointments to have lunch. She doesn't see it as you asking her out because you're being vague as f*** about it. She sees this as a friendship because you've made no attempt to let her know you're interested in her otherwise. You asked her out to lunch, not on a date. The women on Sex and the City went out to lunch all the time, and it wasn't a date. You have no real right to be angry at her for having a previous engagement. You two are friends and nothing more until you let her know you want to take it further. Then she either rejects you and you remain friends or it turns into romance. So, what do I do? |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Mar 19, 2014 14:37:40 GMT -5
Well, you tell her how you feel. One of three things can happen.
1. She says yes, and balloons and confetti rain down from the ceiling
2. She says no, and you take the mature route and stay friends
C. She says no and you act like a child about it
Of course, the first choice is the desired choice, but if she says no, please do the right thing and be mature about it. You're an adult.
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 14:39:56 GMT -5
Well, you tell her how you feel. One of three things can happen. 1. She says yes, and balloons and confetti rain down from the ceiling 2. She says no, and you take the mature route and stay friends C. She says no and you act like a child about it Of course, the first choice is the desired choice, but if she says no, please do the right thing and be mature about it. You're an adult. You and I should have a weekly relationship advice column on the main site. It would be glorious. |
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Post by Kash Flagg on Mar 19, 2014 14:40:59 GMT -5
Well, you tell her how you feel. One of three things can happen. 1. She says yes, and balloons and confetti rain down from the ceiling 2. She says no, and you take the mature route and stay friends C. She says no and you act like a child about it Of course, the first choice is the desired choice, but if she says no, please do the right thing and be mature about it. You're an adult. You and I should have a weekly relationship advice column on the main site. It would be glorious. That may not be a bad idea. |
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Mar 19, 2014 14:44:40 GMT -5
Well, if she doesn't want to hang out how do I tell her?
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Post by Toxik916 on Mar 19, 2014 14:50:12 GMT -5
Well, if she doesn't want to hang out how do I tell her? You're being way too vague. Why would she not want ti hang with you if you're friends? How are you going to pursue this? Were you going to legitimately ask her out or keep skirting the issue via your veil of "friendship"? |
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