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Post by psychokiller on Jun 21, 2014 19:45:38 GMT -5
I could of had sex last summer with some girl I was talking to on one of the dating sites. It seems she was really into me, & actually invited me over to her house before we ever even met. The thing that kind of turned me off though is that she was still having sex with her ex & someone else. But said I would become exclusive to her since she really liked me. I just got kind of turned off that, but I still for some reason still regret it to this day. Well, at the very least you got a chance to learn something about yourself: what you like/dislike in a partner, and how you feel concerning stuff like what she seemed to be into. Now you have that knowledge for the future. A big thing here, besides the whole "improve yourself/learn about yourself first, the sexy time will come (heh heh heh) later" thing, is also to make peace with the notion that, sometimes, you DO just want to get laid, and sometimes you'll wind up making choices you may look back on with regret. If you do? Congratulations, and welcome to the population of "Just About Everybody Who Has Ever Lived in the History of Forever". We've got a culture that not only ties too much of our self-worth to sex, but also presents sex and self-confidence as things you should be a master at immediately; after all, in the movies we never see James Bond going this his "awkward phase" where he's learning how to speak to women, and the hot women in your average college comedy always seem 100% sexually self-aware and confident. Learn to accept screwing up now and then, just do your best to avoid hurting others along the way. ...This thread is becoming a steady reminder that my girlfriend has been visiting her friends in Canada for the past week, and I might be going a tad stir crazy, to put it one way. Yeah, I suppose. She said that she was still good friends with her ex, but said that it was just sex but it didn't mean anything, but with me it would. Also, she was having sex with someone else she knew, I forget who, but said the same about him that it didn't mean anything. I just feel like maybe I should have at least hung out with her once before just saying no. And than when I turned her down she messaged me later saying make sure you get a good night's rest. And saying that she cared about me. This was before we ever even met in person. I suppose you could take it one of two ways, one in which for some reason she really liked me from our conversations, or the other, which is that she was the S word & just wanted to have sex with different people.
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Post by HMARK Center on Jun 21, 2014 20:06:09 GMT -5
Well, at the very least you got a chance to learn something about yourself: what you like/dislike in a partner, and how you feel concerning stuff like what she seemed to be into. Now you have that knowledge for the future. A big thing here, besides the whole "improve yourself/learn about yourself first, the sexy time will come (heh heh heh) later" thing, is also to make peace with the notion that, sometimes, you DO just want to get laid, and sometimes you'll wind up making choices you may look back on with regret. If you do? Congratulations, and welcome to the population of "Just About Everybody Who Has Ever Lived in the History of Forever". We've got a culture that not only ties too much of our self-worth to sex, but also presents sex and self-confidence as things you should be a master at immediately; after all, in the movies we never see James Bond going this his "awkward phase" where he's learning how to speak to women, and the hot women in your average college comedy always seem 100% sexually self-aware and confident. Learn to accept screwing up now and then, just do your best to avoid hurting others along the way. ...This thread is becoming a steady reminder that my girlfriend has been visiting her friends in Canada for the past week, and I might be going a tad stir crazy, to put it one way. Yeah, I suppose. She said that she was still good friends with her ex, but said that it was just sex but it didn't mean anything, but with me it would. Also, she was having sex with someone else she knew, I forget who, but said the same about him that it didn't mean anything. I just feel like maybe I should have at least hung out with her once before just saying no. And than when I turned her down she messaged me later saying make sure you get a good night's rest. And saying that she cared about me. This was before we ever even met in person. I suppose you could take it one of two ways, one in which for some reason she really liked me from our conversations, or the other, which is that she was the S word & just wanted to have sex with different people. Eh, and that doesn't really make her a slut, she's just pretty open sexually; I've certainly known people who are borderline swingers, but who reserve their most romantic feelings for only one person. That said, that doesn't mean that you, personally, need to feel comfortable with that; that may just be who she is, you are who you are, and if you want to give it a try then go ahead, but if you just can't bring yourself, then that's perfectly fine, too. Again, so much of it is learning how you respond to different situations and different dispositions people might have.
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Post by psychokiller on Jun 21, 2014 20:15:22 GMT -5
Yeah, I suppose. She said that she was still good friends with her ex, but said that it was just sex but it didn't mean anything, but with me it would. Also, she was having sex with someone else she knew, I forget who, but said the same about him that it didn't mean anything. I just feel like maybe I should have at least hung out with her once before just saying no. And than when I turned her down she messaged me later saying make sure you get a good night's rest. And saying that she cared about me. This was before we ever even met in person. I suppose you could take it one of two ways, one in which for some reason she really liked me from our conversations, or the other, which is that she was the S word & just wanted to have sex with different people. Eh, and that doesn't really make her a slut, she's just pretty open sexually; I've certainly known people who are borderline swingers, but who reserve their most romantic feelings for only one person. That said, that doesn't mean that you, personally, need to feel comfortable with that; that may just be who she is, you are who you are, and if you want to give it a try then go ahead, but if you just can't bring yourself, then that's perfectly fine, too. Again, so much of it is learning how you respond to different situations and different dispositions people might have. Yeah, that's true. She's still on the dating site, but she'd probably be creeped out if I message her out of nowhere a year later. And she probably wouldn't even view me the same as she once did.
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Post by Confused Mark Wahlberg on Jun 21, 2014 21:20:13 GMT -5
"I just have sex now so I can have a memory to jerk off to later" -Patrice O'Neal
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 23:02:24 GMT -5
"I just have sex now so I can have a memory to jerk off to later" -Patrice O'Neal This is gonna be good as a motherf***er...LATER
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Post by eDemento2099 on Jun 22, 2014 3:24:17 GMT -5
I'd say stop hanging out with 14 year olds. That should fix your problems. So I should stop using the internet for prolonged periods... That wasn't an insult to this forum. You guys are awesome. It's when I leave the forums and google search... There be trolls out there (or the aforementioned 14 year olds who are too insecure to act their age and respect other people for being difference/going against the grain).
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Post by Professor Chaos on Jun 22, 2014 5:06:09 GMT -5
I had sex with about 40 different women before I got married 3 years ago. Even the wife was fun before we got married then I basically said "I Do" to pay her way through life, take out her trash, and give up having sex. I would say live it up while you're single.
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Post by Glitch on Jun 22, 2014 5:14:56 GMT -5
I always thought that telling someone to get laid because they are angry of stressed out is pretty stupid. Even after having sex, the thing making you angry is still gonna be there. Hell, it'll probably ruin the mood during the act.
"That bastard, I can't wait to stab him! I'm really-what? Oh, I finished. I guess I have to get out of bed."
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Post by Kalmia on Jun 22, 2014 6:54:53 GMT -5
I think that my issue with people and sex is how so many people look down on and mock others for not having the same viewpoint.
If you want to have sex with as many people as possible then do so, just don't mock others for choosing not to. But likewise, if you don't want to have sex with as many as people as possible, don't look down on those that do.
Society is too obsessed with what everybody else is doing. Who cares? Just do whatever you want to do as long as it's legal and consensual.
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Post by agent817 on Jun 22, 2014 9:17:35 GMT -5
I think that my issue with people and sex is how so many people look down on and mock others for not having the same viewpoint. If you want to have sex with as many people as possible then do so, just don't mock others for choosing not to. But likewise, if you don't want to have sex with as many as people as possible, don't look down on those that do. Society is too obsessed with what everybody else is doing. Who cares? Just do whatever you want to do as long as it's legal and consensual. That is true. I still remember when I was about 19, this girl who I was friends with was a little two-faced on the subject of sex. On one hand, she would say that my first time should be special, but then she would say how I was "behind" on sex and giving me some grief on how my folks "sheltered me," which wasn't the case. I just didn't get out a lot. Funny thing though, not long after that, she found God and she wasn't the sex-crazed girl she was before. Funny how things change like that.
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Post by BigJerichool222 on Jun 22, 2014 15:30:37 GMT -5
I like how a lot of people think that getting laid will change who you are the instant intercourse occurs.
A fat, socially awkward nerd will still be a fat, socially awkward nerd after he/she gets laid, so YOU NEED TO GET LAID is terrible advice to give to someone in that regard.
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Post by Glitch on Jun 22, 2014 16:29:50 GMT -5
Of course people assume everybody else should have the same opinion on as them on living their lives.
Just look what happens when you post here that you don't drink alcohol.
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Post by HMARK Center on Jun 22, 2014 18:09:35 GMT -5
I always thought that telling someone to get laid because they are angry of stressed out is pretty stupid. Even after having sex, the thing making you angry is still gonna be there. Hell, it'll probably ruin the mood during the act. "That bastard, I can't wait to stab him! I'm really-what? Oh, I finished. I guess I have to get out of bed." I don't think everybody who says that technically means it that way. Of course your life can still serious, serious problems, whether you're getting laid or not. However, a lot of people who might use the phrase "you need to get laid" (which is impolite no matter how you cut it) mean it more concerning people who might be getting worked up about things that person might not consider to be important. The idea is more "you're so wound up, just go let off some steam and see there are better things in the world out there". Again, many people say it in a totally insulting way, but the concept is more about having perspective and having an outlet that actually feels good instead of one that makes a person angry or upset.
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Post by Cela on Jun 22, 2014 23:47:18 GMT -5
The very idea of "getting laid" is so misogynistic and heterocentric that it kind of offends me but that's another topic. People say it to women too... Also, laying is usually done by the female of the species. You've "gotta sow" or "spread wild oats" could be a misogynistic term, but laid... that's pure divine goddess.
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Post by ThereIsNoAbsurdistOnlyZuul on Jun 23, 2014 1:16:12 GMT -5
The answer to this is really complicated and I cannot effectively post it in a forum without losing a lot to translation.
Paraphasing it thusly: Some people use gender/sexuality as a method of relating to other. It is a common male trait, because as men sexuality is more socially accepted and acceptable as an overt component of our social identity.
Couple that with idiots and/or jackasses and there you go.
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Post by Sephiroth on Jun 24, 2014 19:45:47 GMT -5
I am normally not one for whom sex is the all purpose answer to everything. But after having a guy tell me today that they could not keep an appointment because he did not want to disturb his hamster that he has had for five years, my most immediate redaction was to want to say "You need to get a woman!"
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Post by Sam Punk on Jun 25, 2014 18:09:21 GMT -5
I don't know.
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Post by Wolf Hawkfield no1 NZ poster on Jun 27, 2014 1:40:47 GMT -5
Personly I think sex is f***ing great but people who think it is be all of all human experience are idiots.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Jun 27, 2014 5:52:39 GMT -5
I always thought that telling someone to get laid because they are angry of stressed out is pretty stupid. Even after having sex, the thing making you angry is still gonna be there. Hell, it'll probably ruin the mood during the act. "That bastard, I can't wait to stab him! I'm really-what? Oh, I finished. I guess I have to get out of bed." I agree on the 'sex with a randomer' score, but I think if you're in a relationship, doing something so pleasurable can be really helpful, the endorphins help you feel better and being more relaxed helps you get some perspective.
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