ibdude
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Post by ibdude on Jan 2, 2015 23:39:43 GMT -5
When you ask her out or try to get in a relationship with her. What does she really mean by that?
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Post by Dave the Dave on Jan 2, 2015 23:48:07 GMT -5
My experience..... the friendship is already over, but she wants you to not be mad about it
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Viva
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Post by Viva on Jan 2, 2015 23:48:50 GMT -5
She isn't interested in you.
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Post by JTG Fan on Jan 2, 2015 23:54:22 GMT -5
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bob
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Post by bob on Jan 2, 2015 23:55:45 GMT -5
it's a nice way of her saying she's not interested in a person in that way
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Post by xCompackx on Jan 2, 2015 23:59:31 GMT -5
This and that roommate thread are proof that you've gotta be really f***ing certain before asking a girl you're close with out on a date. I don't think it necessarily means the friendship is over, but it can change things when you put it out there that you like her. Not that you shouldn't have tried at all, but y'know.
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Post by suave on Jan 3, 2015 0:01:44 GMT -5
ya dun goofed
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Jan 3, 2015 0:11:41 GMT -5
Look, this is the best, easiest advice I can give when it comes to dating. Save yourself a headache and listen. if a woman shows no interest in being in a relationship with you, it's because she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. If that's the case, just move, because you're not going to change that. It's just way it goes. Accept the friend zone and find somebody else.
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Post by Danimal on Jan 3, 2015 0:31:56 GMT -5
She's probably just trying to be nice but it's possible she's being straight with you.
1. How good of friends are you? Would it be a big loss if the friendship ended?
2. What kind of play is she getting otherwise? If she's a girl with plenty of romantic options it makes less sense to risk the friendship than if she's spending Saturday nights at home.
3. Is it a situation where you'd still be around each-other if dating didn't work-out and it would be awkward as hell?
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Post by Kevin Hamilton on Jan 3, 2015 0:37:33 GMT -5
She's not interested in you.
She may still really like you as a friend. That may or may not be bullshit; depends on the girl.
Bottom line though, she's got no romantic feelings.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Jan 3, 2015 0:39:31 GMT -5
Sorry bro, let her be the one to contact you.
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Post by Heartbreaker on Jan 3, 2015 0:46:35 GMT -5
How many of these threads have we gotten in the past month?
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Post by xCompackx on Jan 3, 2015 0:48:57 GMT -5
How many of these threads have we gotten in the past month? It sucks if asking leads to a friendship ending and all, but I think it's nice that people are at least finding the courage to ask about dating.
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Post by fw91 on Jan 3, 2015 0:51:22 GMT -5
euphemism for "LOL NO."
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ibdude
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Post by ibdude on Jan 3, 2015 0:57:46 GMT -5
She's probably just trying to be nice but it's possible she's being straight with you. 1. How good of friends are you? Would it be a big loss if the friendship ended? 2. What kind of play is she getting otherwise? If she's a girl with plenty of romantic options it makes less sense to risk the friendship than if she's spending Saturday nights at home. 3. Is it a situation where you'd still be around each-other if dating didn't work-out and it would be awkward as hell? 1)I've been friends with this girl for almost 6 years and we've had our ups and downs. If the friendship ended I really don't know how I'd feel about it since I didn't talk to her for almost a year last year because of something she said to me that was really messed up, but we've since made up. 2) She has told me of many of her sexual conquests over the years and I used to sit there and listen to it. But, it just got to be too much for me so I had to tell her to stop telling me about her and other dudes. I might sound jealous, but it wad like she was flaunting it in front of my face. 3)As for how awkward it would be, I really couldn't answer that question. I do think we would be around each other a lot more though. Sorry bro, let her be the one to contact you. Different guy. You must be thinking about the other thread.
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ibdude
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Post by ibdude on Jan 3, 2015 0:58:49 GMT -5
How many of these threads have we gotten in the past month? Suckas gots to know!
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Post by chazraps on Jan 3, 2015 1:01:30 GMT -5
Also, if you're two people in a circle of friends, that social circle can be a really important thing. Two people in that circle dating could change the dynamic and lead to some unnecessary ugliness down the line.
Or, if you're co-workers or even in the same profession, it's a more personable way of saying "I don't date people I work with or may work with in the future." That doesn't mean they're using you or planning on using you, they just want to avoid not only the awkwardness that could come from a break-up, but the tension when you have to deal with relationship issues alongside your career.
Or they could legit be in a point where they don't feel like dating anyone now and know that saying word-for-word "I don't want to date anyone right now" indirectly implies "We might date later" which could lead to a number of awkward and hurtful scenarios down the line.
But ultimately, this person doesn't want to date you. It sucks, it doesn't make them a bad person for not wanting to date you and it doesn't make you a bad person that this one person is choosing not to start a romantic relationship with you. Weird as it sounds, it's the most personal thing to not take personal that there is.
Take the friendship, friends are cool and a lot of people wish they had them. Move on. At the very least, and this is a kind of selfish takeaway but it's valuable, knowing a person doesn't have any romantic interest in your but considers themselves a friend gives you the chance to be fully open and bounce ideas off them when you come across the next person you want to date. If it's someone who is just as awesome as this person (and it will be), you have someone who would like to see you happy in a relationship to give some advice.
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ibdude
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Post by ibdude on Jan 3, 2015 1:05:53 GMT -5
Also, if you're two people in a circle of friends, that social circle can be a really important thing. Two people in that circle dating could change the dynamic and lead to some unnecessary ugliness down the line. Or, if you're co-workers or even in the same profession, it's a more personable way of saying "I don't date people I work with or may work with in the future." That doesn't mean they're using you or planning on using you, they just want to avoid not only the awkwardness that could come from a break-up, but the tension when you have to deal with relationship issues alongside your career. Or they could legit be in a point where they don't feel like dating anyone now and know that saying word-for-word "I don't want to date anyone right now" indirectly implies "We might date later" which could lead to a number of awkward and hurtful scenarios down the line. But ultimately, this person doesn't want to date you. It sucks, it doesn't make them a bad person for not wanting to date you and it doesn't make you a bad person that this one person is choosing not to start a romantic relationship with you. Weird as it sounds, it's the most personal thing to not take personal that there is. Take the friendship, friends are cool and a lot of people wish they had them. Move on. At the very least, and this is a kind of selfish takeaway but it's valuable, knowing a person doesn't have any romantic interest in your but considers themselves a friend gives you the chance to be fully open and bounce ideas off them when you come across the next person you want to date. If it's someone who is just as awesome as this person (and it will be), you have someone who would like to see you happy in a relationship to give some advice. That last paragraph is kinda how things are with me and her right now.
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Post by Crappler El 0 M on Jan 3, 2015 1:24:28 GMT -5
When a girl says that, it generally means she doesn't want to get into a relationship with you. It's just a nicer way to say it.
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Post by Sponsored by Groose Wipes on Jan 3, 2015 1:57:17 GMT -5
From my experience, she likes how things are and doesn't want to risk changing a good thing. She likes you but doesn't love you in a relationship kind of way.
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