"Hollywood" Cactus Matt
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Post by "Hollywood" Cactus Matt on Dec 17, 2006 1:24:24 GMT -5
Some of you may remember my I Got Dumped - Cheer Me Up thread from about a month ago; for those who don't, it's there in the link, but the thread is pretty dead so posting would be pointless and would probably annoy the mods. Anyway, in case you couldn't tell by the thread title ... the time for being sad is over, because I have a date! Now here's the dorky thing: we met on MySpace. I was bored/lonely/being emo one night and decided to just randomly message women in the area; she was the only one who responded that didn't come across as a total b****. So we chatted on Yahoo the next night for about an hour and exchanged numbers; I called her today and we talked again for 20 minutes before I had to get back to work. We talked again on Yahoo tonight and hit it off even better than before. So we set up a date when it's convenient - she works two jobs (manages at one) that take up most of her time, and the past three weeks I've worked six 10- to 12-hour days, so I'm usually pretty beat by the time I'm done. So I hate to be "that guy," because I've always been annoyed by him, too, but I have to ask: having only gone through the biggest heartbreak of my life less than a month ago, am I moving too fast? Am I only really digging this chick because she's not my ex? Don't get me wrong - in no way am I ready to call her my girlfriend after one date that hasn't even happened yet, but I had forgotten how exciting this time in a person's life can be. Now I know what the big deal was back in high school ... As for the plans: we're going to play pool for sure, since she's excited to "kick my ass at something," as she so eloquently put it; got any other suggestions for someone who is broke as hell and hasn't had a "first date" in well over a year? I will now accept your kudos and congratulations. Or your scorn. Whichever works best for you.
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Post by mcclanahan on Dec 17, 2006 1:31:49 GMT -5
rub it in why don't ya, good for you though
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Post by The Raven on Dec 17, 2006 1:46:03 GMT -5
There's nothing wrong with letting loose and moving on. I say have fun.
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Post by mcclanahan on Dec 17, 2006 1:47:39 GMT -5
don't forget to put a billy on your willy, if you know what I mean, and give us most of the details, we'll be waiting
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Post by Mad Johnny Maxx on Dec 17, 2006 1:50:51 GMT -5
Well...at least it's happening for one of us.
Some chick found me on my MySpace awhile back...and since then I've tried setting up two dates (the latest one being tonight) and both times...went through the frickin' toilet.
I swear I couldn't get laid if the last chick was on the Earth, just had a nuclear war, I was the last man on the planet and she was ovulating for the last time.
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Post by Dr. Marzvon Zombie M.D. on Dec 17, 2006 1:54:24 GMT -5
Not to hog on ure thread but i had a date too tonight and it was sweet
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Post by mcclanahan on Dec 17, 2006 1:54:54 GMT -5
Well...at least it's happening for one of us. Some chick found me on my MySpace awhile back...and since then I've tried setting up two dates (the latest one being tonight) and both times...went through the frickin' toilet. I swear I couldn't get laid if the last chick was on the Earth, just had a nuclear war, I was the last man on the planet and she was ovulating for the last time. well duh, there wouldn't be a point if she were ovulating for the last time, one kid can't repopulate the world
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Post by HMARK Center on Dec 17, 2006 2:02:17 GMT -5
You're only moving "too fast" if you suddenly latch onto this girl in some crazed, desperate attempt to recreate your previous relationship.
If you're just going out to meet someone new and have fun, live it up, enjoy it, and go wherever the night leads you. Just don't assume you've found the new love of your life after one night.
And I need my girl to stop working two jobs, this whole "wait 'til I'm done with finals and she gets a break over the holidays" thing is NOT doing much for my mental health.
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"Hollywood" Cactus Matt
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Post by "Hollywood" Cactus Matt on Dec 17, 2006 2:04:03 GMT -5
don't forget to put a billy on your willy, if you know what I mean, and give us most of the details, we'll be waiting Thanks for the advice, but I never leave home without one. No little ones for me, thanks. And besides, first-date sex is never a good idea if you want anything to come of the date. Not to hog on ure thread but i had a date too tonight and it was sweet No worries, man. Congrats! How did it go? (aside from "sweet," obviously.) You're only moving "too fast" if you suddenly latch onto this girl in some crazed, desperate attempt to recreate your previous relationship. If you're just going out to meet someone new and have fun, live it up, enjoy it, and go wherever the night leads you. Just don't assume you've found the new love of your life after one night. That's the plan, man. I have no desire to recreate something that obviously didn't work for a reason. Thanks for the advice, though.
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Post by Dr. Marzvon Zombie M.D. on Dec 17, 2006 2:10:43 GMT -5
don't forget to put a billy on your willy, if you know what I mean, and give us most of the details, we'll be waiting Thanks for the advice, but I never leave home without one. No little ones for me, thanks. And besides, first-date sex is never a good idea if you want anything to come of the date. No worries, man. Congrats! How did it go? (aside from "sweet," obviously.) It went pretty damn well actually, and someone i could actually see talking to after sex with out feeling stupider then when i started, fudge is stupider a word?
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Post by Oak: Certified Jade Hater on Dec 17, 2006 3:25:10 GMT -5
I will now accept your kudos and congratulations. Or your scorn. Whichever works best for you. Kudos & congrats. Ya bastard. All 3 in one!!
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Post by Count Creepyhead on Dec 17, 2006 3:28:32 GMT -5
Dating is highly overrated. Stay home and spark up, turn on skinemax etc.. and relax. And remember folks, all the jokes, TV shows etc about marriage being a living hell are true. I just wish more people would heed the warning. There is alot of truth in Al Bundy...Alot.
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Post by Lair of the Shadow MaDaBa on Dec 17, 2006 4:25:36 GMT -5
Dating is highly overrated. Yeah, and the "dying happy" part? A rumor started by Hallmark.
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Post by Deus Ex Machina on Dec 17, 2006 6:49:11 GMT -5
Well, Matt, let me be the lone voice of concern, as I so often am around these parts. I'll based my stated opinion on my own experiences and attitude towards life. While I am glad you've met someone and you are feeling happy again, I'm a smidgen confused as I was under the impression that your ex was the love of your life and that you were both very much in love still, her father being the only reason you guys were unable to be together. Personally, my feelings do not come with a switch, and I am not able to turn them on and off at will, something I've caught much flack for over the years. Friends and women alike have complained that I "didn't just move on" and "got over it", but when I spent 3½ years with someone, I'm not gonna just forget all my feelings within a month. Sorry, I don't work that way. It takes time to work through this crap for me, and I think I come out a stronger and healthier, if much more cynical, person at the end. When it ended with the love of my life (and I'm not to proud to say she dumped me like The Great Khali dumps a jobber on their head: the ugliest, most painful way possible), my initial reaction was that I just needed to sleep with someone new to move on. Obviously that was a moronic idea and didn't work at all, except to make me feel awkward and embarrassed (and I found out years later that the chick I slept with was madly in love with me for years afterwards). Before I make this story even longer, I'll try to sum it up: If you hope to move on and actually start a new relationship, you have to finish up the last one first, mentally and emotionally. Otherwise you'll be one of those guys that constantly annoy the new gf with tales of the old gf. If you can't fully give yourself to the new one and she's just an exchangable arm dressing, it's not fair to her and it's not fair to you. I'm not judging you, because it's a very natural reaction to your situation. I'm just saying you should finish up the old sit before you start a new one, or the old s*** will drip in to the new. But everyone is different, so take this advice for what it's worth. I'm the guy that burns the bridges and never look back on old girlfriends. Once it's over, I don't talk to them again. I can't remain friends with them. Someone is always going to have feelings, and hope the love will blossom up again, and if you go around harboring those, you'll never really move on. You're only moving "too fast" if you suddenly latch onto this girl in some crazed, desperate attempt to recreate your previous relationship. If you're just going out to meet someone new and have fun, live it up, enjoy it, and go wherever the night leads you. Just don't assume you've found the new love of your life after one night. And I need my girl to stop working two jobs, this whole "wait 'til I'm done with finals and she gets a break over the holidays" thing is NOT doing much for my mental health. My girlfriend is currently living in France. I get to see her every couple of months. But we're stronger than that. In the end it'll make us a stronger couple and make sure we can survive anything. I honestly believe that.
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Post by amsiraK on Dec 17, 2006 9:11:09 GMT -5
It will. That's one of those "if we make it past this, we'll kick butt relationship-wise" things couples go through.
And Cactus Matt - good for you actually getting out. I'm not saying rush right into a relationship this soon after the breakup, but there's no sense in wallowing, either. You need time to get over it, but you also need to not board yourself up in your room listening to break-up songs either. Eventually, everyone who gets dumped has to step outside and go out on that first date. There's no set timetable for it, so you have to do it when you're ready.
That said, don't make this into something huge right away. Just go out and have fun. Pool is a good first date-y thing because it's VERY public, it's a fun date rather than a romantic setting and that'll give you both a chance to relax and actually talk to each other.
Good luck!
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Post by Koda, Master Crunchyroller on Dec 17, 2006 10:22:43 GMT -5
Damn you....I'm still gathering the balls to ask the girl I like out...T_T
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Post by iwchater on Dec 17, 2006 11:03:13 GMT -5
Some of you may remember my I Got Dumped - Cheer Me Up thread from about a month ago; for those who don't, it's there in the link, but the thread is pretty dead so posting would be pointless and would probably annoy the mods. Anyway, in case you couldn't tell by the thread title ... the time for being sad is over, because I have a date! Now here's the dorky thing: we met on MySpace. I was bored/lonely/being emo one night and decided to just randomly message women in the area; she was the only one who responded that didn't come across as a total b****. So we chatted on Yahoo the next night for about an hour and exchanged numbers; I called her today and we talked again for 20 minutes before I had to get back to work. We talked again on Yahoo tonight and hit it off even better than before. So we set up a date when it's convenient - she works two jobs (manages at one) that take up most of her time, and the past three weeks I've worked six 10- to 12-hour days, so I'm usually pretty beat by the time I'm done. So I hate to be "that guy," because I've always been annoyed by him, too, but I have to ask: having only gone through the biggest heartbreak of my life less than a month ago, am I moving too fast? Am I only really digging this chick because she's not my ex? Don't get me wrong - in no way am I ready to call her my girlfriend after one date that hasn't even happened yet, but I had forgotten how exciting this time in a person's life can be. Now I know what the big deal was back in high school ... As for the plans: we're going to play pool for sure, since she's excited to "kick my ass at something," as she so eloquently put it; got any other suggestions for someone who is broke as hell and hasn't had a "first date" in well over a year? I will now accept your kudos and congratulations. Or your scorn. Whichever works best for you. Well here's something that will cheer u up even more, u just mite get lucky
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Post by "Hollywood" Cactus Matt on Dec 17, 2006 11:08:24 GMT -5
Well, Matt, let me be the lone voice of concern, as I so often am around these parts. I'll based my stated opinion on my own experiences and attitude towards life. While I am glad you've met someone and you are feeling happy again, I'm a smidgen confused as I was under the impression that your ex was the love of your life and that you were both very much in love still, her father being the only reason you guys were unable to be together. Actually, Deus, both of my ex's parents love me to death. And she is/was the love of my life, in that nothing will ever be as meaningful to me as the first (only?) time I dropped to my knee, held out the shiny diamond ring, and asked her "Will you marry me?" Nothing will top that, even if I live to be 120. That took so much courage and effort on my behalf that I didn't even know I had. And she said yes, and the second she did, it became the happiest moment of my life. But she doesn't want me anymore, for whatever reason. So I have to get on with my life. I'm always going to think about my ex - we shared so much - but to compare the old with the potential new is incredibly foolish, I agree. It is also incredibly foolish to not use negativity to its fullest potential and try your hardest to turn it into a positive. I got sick of being sad a while ago. And if New Girl is going to help me - even if we go on one date and decided it isn't going to work out and part ways forever - it will at least give me the self-esteem to know that I can get dates, some women out there do want me, and if my ex ever realizes her mistake and comes running back, I'll have the strength to tell her no. Thanks for your concern, Deus. I really do mean that, and it does mean a lot to me. And if you end up being right, I'll be the first one to tell you. But I hope against hope that you're not, because then I'll be right back at square one. And, for the record, I like this new girl, but I'm not anywhere near close to saying the big scary L-word (not lesbian) or even, for that matter, putting a couple of "really, really's" in front of "like." Like a recovering addict, I have to go day by day. And if a recovering alcoholic can make it in a world surrounded by beer ads, bars, and liquor stores, I can make it in this city that my ex doesn't even live in. Wow ... that ended up being much longer than it should have been. But there you have it - my thoughts on things after a good night's sleep and a cup of coffee.
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Post by Vice honcho room temperature on Dec 17, 2006 11:12:53 GMT -5
Great he gets a date while my weekend was shot to hell. Step on a tooth pick, my date get postponed for a week (not because of the toothpick), the Devils lost, and I have a feeling that the Vikings will lose today.
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Post by BigBadZ on Dec 17, 2006 11:21:32 GMT -5
Congrats on the date bro... and to give you good thoughts, I was down and depressed for a long time when my ex left me, but this past thurs I was on a date and it ended with us makin out for a while. Just so you can go in there with a little more confidence buddy.
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