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Post by Mozenrath on Sept 8, 2019 9:21:36 GMT -5
Kind of a weird question, but I was thinking... provided you still had enough common ground, would you date someone cooler than you? It doesn't necessarily mean in terms of status. Be it more sophisticated tastes, a more outgoing lifestyle, more adventurous fashion, etc, could you go out with someone who you felt was just way cooler?
Personally, I wouldn't mind, but I can see where this would be a point of insecurity for some.
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Post by Moppy on Sept 8, 2019 10:05:13 GMT -5
Absolutely.
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Post by The 1Watcher Experience on Sept 8, 2019 10:07:48 GMT -5
I don’t see a problem. I’m secure with myself so I like being with someone who’s secure with themselves too. I’m very easy going so people that are even more easy going are more than welcome in my life. I have very few hang ups. I grew up around substance abusers so I won’t date anyone that drinks, smokes or uses drugs. I saw way too much of it in my childhood and I refuse to be around it as an adult. I can’t do drama either. Life is too short to have a toxic relationship or chaos creators in my life.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2019 10:29:18 GMT -5
Sure but also try to do stuff that's at your comfort level too.
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Post by Tenshigure on Sept 8, 2019 10:33:29 GMT -5
I married someone who is the exact opposite of me in most areas specifically because I wanted someone to complement my strengths. I'm the grounded base our family grows from with routine and introversion, she's the free spirit that never wants to eat at the same restaurant twice and insists she dress up even if we're just going to the grocery store.
Couldn't imagine life being better without her to be honest.
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Post by Stu on Sept 8, 2019 10:36:04 GMT -5
I’d rather date someone more cool and interesting than someone more boring than me. One of my worst dates was with someone who had nothing to talk about.
Either way, the key is to make sure you’ve got your own things to talk about. I’ve gone out with people cooler than me, but I made sure to hold their interest and avoid quiet, awkward moments between conversations.
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Sept 8, 2019 12:21:57 GMT -5
I married someone who is the exact opposite of me in most areas specifically because I wanted someone to complement my strengths. I'm the grounded base our family grows from with routine and introversion, she's the free spirit that never wants to eat at the same restaurant twice and insists she dress up even if we're just going to the grocery store. Couldn't imagine life being better without her to be honest. That is what I am doing,well we aren't married but been together forever. She stays in touch with modern music and stuff where as I gave up on modern music in 1997. She is a people person ,were as I rather not being around most people.
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Post by King Boo on Sept 8, 2019 13:32:15 GMT -5
Pointless for me to answer a question about an impossibility.
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Post by A Platypus Rave on Sept 8, 2019 14:02:02 GMT -5
I'm a massive dork so... that's pretty much my only option
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Post by Joe Neglia on Sept 8, 2019 14:10:04 GMT -5
If this is a major qualifier/disqualifier for relationships, you're doing it wrong.
And if someone ever deliberately, consciously seeks out people who they perceive as "lesser" than themselves, even in such things as this, so that they can be the alpha of the partnership, I hope no one ever falls into their trap.
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Post by Can you afford to pay me, Gah on Sept 8, 2019 14:31:37 GMT -5
"Cooler" I guess I'm more trying to defend what is considered cooler? I feel like what is considered cool depends on what you think it is or isn't. Which in reality there not wrong answer. Not everyone ever going to find the same things cool or not cool. The thing is, don't devalue yourself, if you have to do that in order to keep the other person happy or keep the relationship going, Than it's not going to work long term and you likely will never be fully happy. I feel like in this day and age, there really isn't an alpha or should be one in a relationship but more equals. We seen how the woman's rights movement as taken big steps over the recent years and that's because they want to feel like equals. I don't see anything wrong with that which is why I saying there really may not be an alpha in a relationship.
There may be things he or she does that you don't do that you find interesting. But as long you get alone and you find things that you can relate too with that person. That person respects you and what you do, that he or she may not do. Because everyone is different as you know.
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Post by Cyno on Sept 8, 2019 14:51:59 GMT -5
I'm cooler than Coolsville.
In all seriousness, "coolness" relative to my interests is a big turn-on for me. So, sure.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2019 16:22:41 GMT -5
It would be hard to find someone cooler than me.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2019 16:29:33 GMT -5
Yeah if we vibe we vibe. Me, I'm a laidback chill type of guy so even though she might be more outgoing, my type of guy is actually what's "cool" to her. Sure, to you the more outgoing, adventurous, popular person might be cool but to others the laidback, stays in, doesn't let things bother them type is what's cool. What's cool varies from person to person.
So yeah I would because at the end of the day what matters is how we vibe as people regardless of what's "cool" or not.
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Post by clifford on Sept 8, 2019 17:14:30 GMT -5
My wife is so much cooler than me.
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Post by fw91 on Sept 8, 2019 17:23:37 GMT -5
Depends... is her name Nona, and is she a rocker who wears a nose ring?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2019 17:40:47 GMT -5
Almost universally. I'm of the opinion if you don't think your partner is cooler, funnier, more attractive than you, you aren't with the right person. That's all subjective stuff and its finding the right person. If you're using a scorecard in any way, you're not ready to be with someone.
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Sept 8, 2019 18:03:20 GMT -5
Absolutely.
If they cared, I wouldn't be dating them. And I don't care.
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Post by EyeofTyr on Sept 8, 2019 18:40:04 GMT -5
I'm not sure I fully understand this question...like, every person I've dated I thought was cool? It's partially why I dated them in the first place?
I'd kind of worry if I was dating someone I didn't think was cool or awesome in some way.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2019 18:40:27 GMT -5
To be honest, it kinda makes me feel insecure when I date a girl who has a ton of friends.
I’m a bit of a loner, so it makes for an awkward situation if I ever have to hang out with them. Cause it’s like “Where’s your friends?”.... “Oh I don’t have any.”
A lot of potential relationships didn’t go any further because of this, I feel.
So I tend to date people who aren’t in big groups now.
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