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Post by arrogantmodel on Feb 9, 2020 19:48:52 GMT -5
I had a girlfriend who was a CPA, had no student loan debt, and made about $60K a year, and she still lives at home at 30 because the cost of housing is so high.
I moved in with my grandparents at 27 after my grandfather had a heart attack and then got older and sicker. He passed, and my grandmother is 92, and they're leaving me the house, so I stayed.
It's hard out there, even if you have a good job and everything.
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Post by Citizen Snips on Feb 9, 2020 19:58:46 GMT -5
I lived with my parents for a couple years after college just to build up some money and credit, but I was really feeling the need to get out by the end of that time.
I've lived by myself for over 15 years, no roommates/partners. I work a decent job but never hit 6 figures and my income varies depending on business conditions/overtime. It ranges from "I got this" to "Damn, gonna be tight next month" but it's not some "How shall I ever overcome?!" existential crisis.
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Post by Limity (BLM) on Feb 9, 2020 19:59:07 GMT -5
Well first we have to define bad. Bad by what standard? I think the closest we can come to an objective standard is if staying with your parents is unhealthy for one or both parties.
That one guy that made national headlines goes being evicted by his parents? That was an unhealthy situation.
So is your particular situation unhealthy?
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Post by Cyno on Feb 9, 2020 20:00:46 GMT -5
I know several people that still live at home in their 30's. It's a garbage economy out there.
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Post by thirteen3 on Feb 9, 2020 20:03:28 GMT -5
It was then 2008 happened.
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Post by The Rick Jericho on Feb 9, 2020 20:09:19 GMT -5
People shouldn't be judged on two things:
1. Living with their parents 2. Who they date
Honestly, these two things, let people live their lives.
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Post by Malibu Stacy on Feb 9, 2020 20:25:03 GMT -5
As long as everyone reasonably gets along, it shouldn't matter who lives with who. My boyfriend is 33, I'm about to turn 36, and we currently live with my elderly (not that you'd know it to see him) widower father. Before that, boyfriend and I lived with his grandfather who he cared for, until he had a terrible fall and had to go into assisted living. Each situation has been mutually beneficial for all parties.
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Post by wankah on Feb 9, 2020 20:48:08 GMT -5
No not really. As long as you do your share, norhing wrong with it.
Speaking as someone who's been on his own since the age of 16.
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Post by GuyOfOwnage on Feb 9, 2020 22:46:03 GMT -5
Nope. I didn't move out until I was 24, myself.
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Post by Rave on Feb 9, 2020 23:35:28 GMT -5
If you're contributing, no. If you're like my freeloading cousin's freeloading eldest son who actively refuses to pay rent and help keep food in the house (yet helps himself anytime he pleases and blows hundreds of dollars at a time on Magic The Gathering), yes.
Said freeloading cousin was finally forced out of my aunt's house since the last time I mentioned her here, taking her younger twins with her (though she tried to leave one there while taking his social security check with her, which is a big no-no), but she refuses to take her oldest and his annoying girlfriend. On top of that, she wants to move back in and freeload some more.
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Post by koreycaskets on Feb 9, 2020 23:54:44 GMT -5
Nah not bad at all just chip in for bills or pay rent. I moved out on my own at 17 but I went back a couple times home during my 20s.
I know of people in their 30s who still live with their parents and live rent free that's disgusting.
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Post by martina on Feb 10, 2020 1:45:42 GMT -5
i live with boyfriend and friends so I don't have too.
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Post by Heartbreaker on Feb 10, 2020 1:54:13 GMT -5
I live with my older brother and mum, we all pay rent and bills together. Rent is super expensive in Melbourne, I am having so much trouble finding work but I still help out as much as I can. We unfortunately live in tough times, so a lot of people are going to be living with their parents.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2020 2:05:08 GMT -5
I moved away from my parent's home when I was 18, that's 10 years ago. I've had situations, like waiting for moving days and such - when I've decided to live under their roof for a week or two, so I don't have to start backpackin' from friends to strangers. I did that way too much as younger. I love my family, but could never do it full-time, as I like to horse around my house so much and I want 'em to have somewhat peaceful time. ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) I've been living in apartment near my brother and parents for two years now, so it's been very nice seeing 'em more often again though!
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Post by Stone Cold Eleanor Shellstrop on Feb 10, 2020 2:17:44 GMT -5
Not at all, the lack of rent control, wage increases, and universal basic income are things that are actually bad, which are things that likely feed into the cause of so many 20-40 year olds living with their parents and grandparents. The fact that these people live with family is something that is not bad.
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Post by J. Hova on Feb 10, 2020 2:46:49 GMT -5
Absolutely not a bad thing. I lived at home until I was 25. I was never a freeloader, I provided care for my dad when his health went bad and did little things around the house when they needed to be done. I was never a 'bad' kid, so I wasn't really subjected to any rules (it wasn't like I was bringing drugs into the house or a stream of one night stands). They pretty much took the approach that I got through high school, was going to college, holding down a full time job, so as long as I wasn't doing anything terribly bad, they were fine with me being there. They never asked for rent, but if they would have, I would have gladly paid.
I got a great deal on a house within walking distance of theirs and moved out. Less than two years later, my dad was dead and I sometimes wonder if I would have stayed at home, if that would have prolonged his life (my father and I were extremely close and usually spent a handful of hours together each day before or after work).
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Post by Paul on Feb 10, 2020 4:42:58 GMT -5
I got a great deal on a house within walking distance of theirs and moved out. Less than two years later, my dad was dead and I sometimes wonder if I would have stayed at home, if that would have prolonged his life (my father and I were extremely close and usually spent a handful of hours together each day before or after work). That's called "Survivor's guilt" and no; you shouldn't think like that. It's not your fault in any way that he died; and there's nothing you could have done to prevent it. Don't feel bad for moving out for one minute, please.
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Post by Mandarin Dessert Version 0 on Feb 10, 2020 4:57:23 GMT -5
I am 35, having a basement apartment while my parents live upstairs in their apartment and I would not dream of moving away from there since I have a great connection with my parents and I make myself useful around the house by doing garden work and stuff.
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Post by Oh Cry Me a Screwball on Feb 10, 2020 5:03:45 GMT -5
I am almost 33 with a decent paying job, but I'd just rather pay some rent money to live in a good house with my parents that I get along well with, as opposed to paying even more money in rent in an inferior apartment or something, or have roommates that are more likely to be worse roommates than my mom and dad would be.
Everyone involved benefits in this situation.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2020 9:24:44 GMT -5
I lived with my mother until she died four years ago. To be honest, my two brothers were worse off than me socially and developmentally so it wasn't like "moving out" was an option for them and... well... Let's just say she wasn't the greatest teacher of life since I know there were likely some undiagnosed mental disorders & she wasn't the smartest person I knew (alright, she was an idiot), which left me socially awkward and required outside planning to deal with how to move forward after her untimely passing.
But, I don't see what the issue is. Rent isn't cheap, especially in most cities, and if you can save your money any way, why not? Just pull your own weight at home with chores and labor like you would at your own estate.
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