Is it bad to still live with your parents in your 20s?

[autisticgeordie]

OK, I'm 23 years old and I'll be 24 at the end of February and I still live with my stepdad and mum and, honestly, I can remember when being an adult and living with your parents carried a certain negative stigma to it; like, even now, I still see people who're in their 40s or 50s looking down at people who're adults and still live with their parents.

But, honestly, why is it a bad thing to live with your parents in your 20s? Like, I live with my folks, but I don't mooch off them, I help around the house and do all the stuff that's expected of me and I don't have a problem with that; also, with the prices of houses, it's borderline impossible to get a house all to yourself. 

Also, I've got no real social life, so living on my own would mean that I would feel even more isolated than I already do at times, plus there's also the fact that I've got no idea how to actually live independently, so, if I was living on my own, it'd just be a nightmare for me. But, now, I imagine that living with your parents is becoming more and more socially accepted?

[DiBiase is Good]

Absolutely not.
The financial climate over the last decade has made house prices and rent costs higher. That and the general cost of living getting higher too, more and more people move out a lot later than they would have a few decades ago and therefore it’s becoming more “normalised”.

[Fade]

I think the sentiment to “move out” is a kinda “go see what the real worlds like” kinda thing. But ya could say that’s probably felt with most these days without moving out.

For two different rows of my years in my 20s I lived once on my own, once with an ex. Had its ups and downs. Just like living with my parents. And these days I’m back with them cause our family consists of 4 people, ones got dementia, and one has dialysis, the other works so..it’s kinda become my role to caretake. I take no shame in it. I do get “looks” from certain people though lol..

Also I’ve found in Hispanic culture it tends to be the opposite (for the most part). It’s kinda desired/expected for children to stick around and help so..*shrugs*

Think there’s nothing wrong with either way: moving out and experiencing it or sticking around.

[Instant Classic]

It depends what your doing with you life. If you’re just living there not trying to better yourself or your bank account then yeah it seems a little bad. Otherwise no, not at all.

[crowley1986]

Im 32 still living at home. the financial climate/rent/cost of living/house cost is terrible in Ireland but in the last year im saving for the mortgage deposit....i pay parents 550 a month rent so at least im contributing to the house and doing chores...

[Feyrhausen]

I moved out when I was 19. Then my roommates decided I should leave so I was living in my car. So for years it was couch crashing, living in my car, and even when I had an even halfway decent place (I lived in some real shit holes) I would be living paycheck to paycheck. If you can live with your parents for a good while do so and save your money to get a good start when the right time to move out comes. Just as you say don't be a burden. Contribute in any way you can, whether financially or with chores.

[I'm Team Bayley and Indi]

as long as your contributing there should be no shame living with your parents until any age IMO, I moved back briefly in with my Mother in my early 30s (only late 30s now) until I got properly back on my feet, she would find room for me and all my junk now if I asked

My Nephew is around your age and nobody bats an eyelid that he still living at home

[Deleted]

Personally I don’t think it’s great but that’s just me. I moved out when I was 21. For me I just didn’t want to have to live according to someone else’s rules. Not that I’m a player or a party animal I just don’t like being told what to do by anyone so I wanted the freedom to do whatever I wanted......even if that thing I wanted was to sit and play my computer all day

I don’t judge anyone still living with their parents, my best friend is 34 and has only recently moved in with his first serious relationship but personally there is no way I could have stayed with my parents till that age

[romanstylesiii]

I am 30 and in law school and live with my parents. I would not be able to attend law school any other way. Costs are going up while wages are staying the same. This is just a societal consequence of that

[Gravedigger's Biscuits]

No.

Obviously there can be a social stigma, but why let it bother you? You do what's best for you, and if your parents are happy to have you then great.

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

No. I lived with mine until I was 27. Harsh economic realities make it a lot harder to move out on your own than it used to be.

[Deleted]

I would much rather see people live with their parents in their 20s then take out insane amounts of student loans just to get out of the house and get the "college" experience...especially if they aren't dead set on a realistic major

[TWERKIN' MAGGLE]

I moved out at 26, but it was because I had a job opportunity to live in DC on the company's dime for a year. When that was up, I came home for about a week while I apartment shopped. The only reason I'm able to do it is because it's affordable though. If you're being offered to stay at home, stay at home.

[Push R Truth]

There is a massive difference between growing up and living with your parents VS refusing to grow up and living with your parents.

The former is fine, the latter is normally a disaster waiting to happen.

[mcmahonfan85]

i don't know. is it, George?

[Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!!]

Feb 9, 2020 18:34:56 GMT -5 Push R Truth said:

There is a massive difference between growing up and living with your parents VS refusing to grow up and living with your parents.

The former is fine, the latter is normally a disaster waiting to happen.

Yeah that's absolutely key. I was looking for a better job which proved difficult to find. I paid them rent and helped out around the house any way I could. If that's the way you go about it and that's your reason, that's fine. Ditto if there are mental health reasons (also true in my case). But you can't be a freeloader who makes their parents wait on them hand and foot and refuses to do anything to improve the situation.

[Sephiroth]

I was 29 when I moved out of my dad’s old house. Now, at 37, there is a dreadful possibility I may have to move back in with him.

[mcstoklasa]

YES YOU FREAK



(No. Not at all).

[RadcapRadsley]

I have a HS buddy who was living with his parents in his early 30's while working for the SDPD. Rent's/mortgage's are insane now in most places even for people who are in the 30% or so of income earners. Nothing wrong as long as you are contributing in some way and figuring out how to do certain things on your own eventually.

[Cranjis McBasketball]

Feb 9, 2020 18:35:00 GMT -5 mcmahonfan85 said:

i don't know. is it, George?

It’s the hip new thing. Living with your parents.

Baldness caught on too!