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Post by HMARK Center on Feb 10, 2020 9:33:47 GMT -5
I did it until I was 26; New Jersey is a ridiculously expensive state to live in, and it took getting a good deal on an apartment with a buddy of mine before I could get anything that worked. Soon afterwards I got into a decent paying career so I've been able to keep it up, with the exception of a month or so where I moved back until I could finalize the new apartment I was moving into.
So yeah, no need to feel shame, the deck is stacked against young people nowadays, or even many people into their 40s at this point.
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Feb 10, 2020 9:37:54 GMT -5
It depends on your parents and the situation.
For Example : If your parents can't stand you and are badgering you to GTFO? Then yes, it's bad to still be living with them.
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Post by chrom on Feb 10, 2020 11:08:29 GMT -5
Do you work? Do you contribute and pay the bills and groceries?
People forget due to the economy being in the toilet back in 09 some had no choice but to
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Post by fw91 on Feb 10, 2020 11:40:17 GMT -5
With real estate/rent prices these days it’s a miracle that anybody actually stops living with their parents. As long as you work and have a direction it’s no problem.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2020 12:05:54 GMT -5
I just turned 39 and I moved back in with my mom when I was 35. From 18-35 I did the wife and had my own home thing, but after my wife and I split up, I went to stay with my mom for awhile while I figured out my next move. She says she likes having me there, and that I can just live there until she dies and then keep the house as my own until I die 20 years later or whatever.
I have a job, help make the house payment, buy most of the groceries help out around the house, and don't ask my much of my mom. It's a nice situation.
Also, she's a way better cook than me or my wife ever were so I'm eating the best meals since childhood.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2020 12:22:05 GMT -5
Absolutely not. The financial climate over the last decade has made house prices and rent costs higher. That and the general cost of living getting higher too, more and more people move out a lot later than they would have a few decades ago and therefore it’s becoming more “normalised”. I wish this positive attitude had been more rampant in my 20's. I spent much of my life with my parents and, despite always being employed, felt like shit whenever the subject came up because the answers were never good.
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Post by edgestar on Feb 10, 2020 12:28:22 GMT -5
I'm 32, and have disabilities where I can't drive. I still live at home, and my fiancee is supportive of that. I don't pay rent, but I clean the house, and help my parents.
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Post by Allie Kitsune on Feb 10, 2020 12:35:09 GMT -5
I just turned 39 and I moved back in with my mom when I was 35. From 18-35 I did the wife and had my own home thing, but after my wife and I split up, I went to stay with my mom for awhile while I figured out my next move. She says she likes having me there, and that I can just live there until she dies and then keep the house as my own until I die 20 years later or whatever. I have a job, help make the house payment, buy most of the groceries help out around the house, and don't ask my much of my mom. It's a nice situation. Also, she's a way better cook than me or my wife ever were so I'm eating the best meals since childhood. Yeah, it's different when you have a good relationship with your parent(s). I had to move back in with my father when my roommate bought his own house, and immediately hooked up with someone afterward, who wanted me out. He didn't really want me back in, and he's wishy-washy about wanting me out (he wants me out because I really should be out), but he also has sad that when I leave again, he'll be frustrated that he can't do the whole "my roof, my rules" thing on me anymore. That, and I spend my weekends at the place that I've been slowly moving my possessions into over the past few months. He wanted me out at 18 (though he didn't want me going to college, and therefore I ultimately didn't).
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Post by Bo Rida on Feb 10, 2020 14:42:43 GMT -5
It used to be normal for multiple generations of families to live in one house together, I think we're just returning to that.
A family where grown up kids, divorced parents and grandparents all live alone is stupid when you think about it, no wonder house prices are so high.
Sadly it'll take a while for the stigma to move with the times.
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Post by Cvslfc123 on Feb 10, 2020 17:24:16 GMT -5
I'm 28 and still live with them. Although I work for my Dad's IT business which we run from a cabin in our back garden. I pay them rent, never ask for money outside my wages and buy most of my own food so I feel I'm still independent.
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Post by thetower52 on Feb 10, 2020 18:02:51 GMT -5
I’m 28 still live at home. f*** that being bad shit. I rather have a roof over my head then be living on the street
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Post by segaz on Feb 11, 2020 5:50:28 GMT -5
as long as your contributing there should be no shame living with your parents until any age IMO, I moved back briefly in with my Mother in my early 30s (only late 30s now) until I got properly back on my feet, she would find room for me and all my junk now if I asked Key words there "as long as you contribute". My sister moved out from living with me and she was a nightmare before she did, thinking she was entitled to everything.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2020 7:24:44 GMT -5
No. I don't think theres anything wrong with living with your family.
Rent is expensive as shit and finding a job that will pay for the rent is not easy, especially if you don't have any qualifications.
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Post by Mecca on Feb 11, 2020 7:39:47 GMT -5
It really depends, my oldest stepson is a good example of this, he's 20 and everyone groans when he comes home from college. Ok well his mom doesn't for the first couple of weeks, she tends to forget when he's gone why everyone wants to strangle him then it returns in a few weeks. He basically walks around the house, displaying a pretty terrible attitude about everything, he's not helpful, and he struggles to follow any rules. And he's well been that way since he was like 12.
My house is very clean, he's the type of person that just throws clothes all over the floor and can trash a room in minutes. Then he gets pissed off if you clean it up because you dared to touch his stuff. It's zero fun to deal with but then he plays the sympathy card with his mom about not wanting to be here for the summer because he doesn't have a room etc etc.
Hes just very difficult and has always been that way, if you are this person then living at home is hard on everyone, he even made his siblings not like him.
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Post by SmashTV on Feb 11, 2020 8:42:25 GMT -5
Not at all. Some people have circumstances where they’re able to move out at a young-ish age, others don’t. As long as you’re helping out when asked, nobody should criticise you for this.
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Post by Hit Girl on Feb 11, 2020 15:38:18 GMT -5
No.
If you have a good relationship with them and have no particular need to move, just stay,
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Post by Rave on Feb 11, 2020 16:27:14 GMT -5
as long as your contributing there should be no shame living with your parents until any age IMO, I moved back briefly in with my Mother in my early 30s (only late 30s now) until I got properly back on my feet, she would find room for me and all my junk now if I asked Key words there "as long as you contribute". My sister moved out from living with me and she was a nightmare before she did, thinking she was entitled to everything. My ex-sister-in-law was like that. Didn't think she needed to help contribute (and would argue about it), would take off at all hours and just leave her kids with me and my mom, wouldn't help pay for whatever she and/or her kids broke, would scream that she "needed" to use the phone pretty much any time I was online (not to mention her moron sister calling at all hours as well)... It was a total mess. When she finally moved out, she tried to keep her kids away from me and my mom for a while because she'd been pissed off at having to help contribute. She's grown the hell up in more recent years, thank goodness, but I don't ever want to live with her again. Me, I'm 34, disabled, and still live at home. I pay rent and help keep food in the house. No shame in it.
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Post by twiggy101 on Feb 11, 2020 21:17:58 GMT -5
I moved out of my parent's house when I was 19 (The secret is living in a small town with low cost of living). But this day and age (Especially in Vancouver!), I feel the stigma is dying. Tons of people in their 20s & 30s are living with their parents.
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Post by zrowsdower on Feb 12, 2020 22:06:40 GMT -5
No, and it bothers me that there are people who think that certain events in life must happen at a certain age.
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