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Post by quantum on Jun 19, 2010 6:41:56 GMT -5
No it doesn;t people who say it does are more of the losers and very shallow people and what's it to them?. As long as your happy with who you are the right person will come along and it's better the first time with the right person than some ho/one night stand. I wish I had done it that way round instead of one night stands before meeting the right girl/women partly beacuse I fell into the shallow mindedness of society.
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Post by Mr. Backlund on Jun 19, 2010 8:18:48 GMT -5
Two things -
1) As others have already stated, virginity doesn't make you a loser, but it may be a sign of being one. Virginity is an effect, not a cause of the status of being a "loser". That said, virginity is a big deal until you lose it, at which point you wonder why you worried about it so much.
2) The whole line of thinking about it better to be a virgin than an STD infested vagrant paying child support is about as stupid as saying because you're a virgin you're a loser. If you're an STD infested vagrant paying child support, you're probably an idiot who would be no less of an idiot if you didn't find someone even dumber than yourself to get in the sack with. The rest of us had our fun, but took the precautions to either prevent having Juniors to pay for or gangrenous genitalia. Its not like you have to wear a scarlet letter around after you consummated a relationship (or a 10 beer happy hour) and just as being a virgin doesn't make you a loser, being a non-virgin doesn't somehow make you a dirty person with alimony to pay.
With that established, do and pursue what makes you happy, but don't get so caught up in it that it takes you over. You should find someone you like being with before you find someone you want to nail. A meaningful relationship that can lead to hanky-panky is much better than jumping on the village bike for a night and being done with it.
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Post by Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! on Jun 19, 2010 8:57:56 GMT -5
I\ve come to realize that no, it doesn't. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but it's just that I haven't met the right girl yet, I guess. I stopped forcing it and my life's a little better for it. does it cause me frustration? yeah it does, but it isn't the end of the world. and anyone who thinks there's something "wrong" with me is usually just covering for their own insecurities in my experience.
I also fail to see how still living with your parents when you're 23 is loserish. I don't have the means to support myself yet so why move out? I like having some extra cash when I need it which is more than I can say for most of my friends who have their own place.
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Post by Pervy Stone Cold on Jun 19, 2010 9:17:01 GMT -5
If girls don't want to sleep with you because of some sort of deformity I don't think you should be called a loser because it isn't really your fault.
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Post by dabossftw on Jun 19, 2010 9:39:07 GMT -5
Nope, virgin =/= loser.
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Post by Hassan bin Sober on Jun 19, 2010 10:45:24 GMT -5
It depends on if you are playing the game or not.
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Post by who throws a shoe?! on Jun 19, 2010 13:07:33 GMT -5
It depends on how old you are and why you're a virgin I suppose.
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Post by smokinvokoun on Jun 19, 2010 13:33:46 GMT -5
For me it's more of a frustration thing. I used to think I was a loser because I haven't had sex yet. But recently, I don't think about it too much. I'm prepared to let it happen if it happens. Because there are so much worse things in life that can make you a loser other than not having sex.
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Post by Orange on Jun 19, 2010 14:11:33 GMT -5
I\ve come to realize that no, it doesn't. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but it's just that I haven't met the right girl yet, I guess. I stopped forcing it and my life's a little better for it. does it cause me frustration? yeah it does, but it isn't the end of the world. and anyone who thinks there's something "wrong" with me is usually just covering for their own insecurities in my experience. I also fail to see how still living with your parents when you're 23 is loserish. I don't have the means to support myself yet so why move out? I like having some extra cash when I need it which is more than I can say for most of my friends who have their own place. I don't think living at home when you're 23 makes you a loser, 33 and 43 sure, but not 23.
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Post by DiBiase is Good on Jun 19, 2010 14:14:10 GMT -5
I don't think living at home when you're 23 makes you a loser, 33 and 43 sure, but not 23. So I'm a loser then?
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Post by Orange on Jun 19, 2010 14:20:30 GMT -5
I don't think living at home when you're 23 makes you a loser, 33 and 43 sure, but not 23. So I'm a loser then? Well there are circumstances, just like with being a virgin. Maybe I should've worded that better so I didn't come across as mean
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Post by DiBiase is Good on Jun 19, 2010 14:24:50 GMT -5
Well there are circumstances, just like with being a virgin. Maybe I should've worded that better so I didn't come across as mean Yep. Maybe you should have! Actually, I'm living back with my dad because my wife and I moved to the USA about 15 months ago. It didn't work out for us there, so I've moved back to the UK and will have to live with my dad for a while until my wife gets here and then we can sort out getting our own place.
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Post by SEND FOR THE MAN!!! on Jun 19, 2010 14:25:02 GMT -5
There are some people who aren't virgins, that should be. Because of them, my hard earned tax money is going towards bullshit like food stamps and welfare.
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Post by Orange on Jun 19, 2010 14:27:19 GMT -5
Well there are circumstances, just like with being a virgin. Maybe I should've worded that better so I didn't come across as mean Yep. Maybe you should have! Actually, I'm living back with my dad because my wife and I moved to the USA about 15 months ago. It didn't work out for us there, so I've moved back to the UK and will have to live with my dad for a while until my wife gets here and then we can sort out getting our own place. Yeah sorry about that. How I meant it was, if a kid is still living with his parents because he just doesn't want to go get a job and wants to mooch, that's a loser. Something like your situation doesn't make you a loser though, that's perfectly understandable and you're not mooching ya know?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2010 14:30:45 GMT -5
No. You are basically the same person after you have sex for the first time. For those who are still virgins here, don't worry about it and fix aspects in your life that is in your control. When you do those things, opportunities like getting laid will come, since you wouldn't be putting it so high on the pedestal.
I lost mines when I was 20, and I thought I was ripped off by the sex. I was like "that's it?" Remember what you see in pornography is a highly exagerrated form of what sex really is.
I have a friend who recently hit 41, and he lost his virginity last year. He was very dependent on his mom and was a grown child like Jack Black and Zach something-something from the Hangover. It didn't bother him at all.
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Post by Mozenrath on Jun 19, 2010 15:07:52 GMT -5
I don't think it makes you a loser, but that really depends on why you want to stop being a virgin. If you want to do it to be cool, it won't make you any cooler.
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Post by Big L on Jun 19, 2010 19:39:18 GMT -5
not at all
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Post by who throws a shoe?! on Jun 19, 2010 22:59:34 GMT -5
I don't think it makes you a loser, but that really depends on why you want to stop being a virgin. If you want to do it to be cool, it won't make you any cooler. Staying a virgin just to be cool and different doesn't make you cool either.
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Post by deafangelboy23 on Jun 20, 2010 0:23:11 GMT -5
Just remember...'Tis better to have loved and lost, then to have paid for it and not liked it. Same principle as what this poster said because there is nothing like poetry to teach you a life lesson. There is no right or wrong answer about virginity but it is matter of opinions. I subscribe to the theory of "better loved and lost than paid for it and not liked it."
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Post by Massive G on Jun 20, 2010 1:39:34 GMT -5
man, its touchy. I was 17 when I punched my ticket outta that club, and although I didn't feel cooler after, by the time people at my school heard about it, they sure thought it was cool. It's a maturity thing, mostly. And I was not mature enough. Maybe some people are as HS juniors but I basically caved to peer pressure, now that I look back at it.
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