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Post by "Sweet & Sour" ImSoFudginGreat on Dec 1, 2009 14:05:04 GMT -5
Ok, there is this girl that I have been texting (same one as before for those that remember), we've been getting on quite well and she has sent me "Olive view" a few times. The only thing is that she seems to avoid spending time with me. For example, there was a party the other night for a girl I work with and she used to work with. She never mentioned she was going so I made plans with my friends and invited her along to which she said she had too much work (I know, sounds like BS). It then turns out she was "dragged there" by her cousin and she didn't want to stay.
My brothers girlfriend suggested that I say that I have been set up on a blind date and thats why I haven't text her (this is yesterday). The whole party situation had mildly annoyed me so I sent the message and I pretty much regretted it immediatly. She hasn't text me all day today or yesterday night.
I'm not sure what to do.
Have I smurfed this up??
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:01:47 GMT -5
did you try texting her today/last night?
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Post by "Sweet & Sour" ImSoFudginGreat on Dec 1, 2009 16:39:36 GMT -5
I did text her this morning like we normally do. I also text her at 7.30 saying "Are tou talking to me??" like she normally does when I don't reply to her.
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Post by italliansausagepat on Dec 1, 2009 17:02:36 GMT -5
geeze bra
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Post by Franchise on Dec 1, 2009 17:05:12 GMT -5
The blind date thing probably didn't help, but I think it's salvageable. Just stop messing around with her, be up front, but maybe let her sleep on it for another night. Just text her, wish her a good night, and mention that you'd like to talk tomorrow. Go from there.
I cannot stress how important it is to be up front and headstrong in this situation.
EDIT: Also, the whole "she doesn't wanna hang out" thing might just be in your head. I personally have felt like that before and it turns out I was very wrong.
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Post by Big L on Dec 1, 2009 17:09:31 GMT -5
Shaking my head
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Post by "Sweet & Sour" ImSoFudginGreat on Dec 1, 2009 17:12:42 GMT -5
The blind date thing probably didn't help, but I think it's salvageable. Just stop messing around with her, be up front, but maybe let her sleep on it for another night. Just text her, wish her a good night, and mention that you'd like to talk tomorrow. Go from there. I cannot stress how important it is to be up front and headstrong in this situation. EDIT: Also, the whole "she doesn't wanna hang out" thing might just be in your head. I personally have felt like that before and it turns out I was very wrong. That makes sense, If I text her good night it'll show I care whatever. As for the whole hanging out thing, its strange. "We" started out by her chasing me and I wasn't really interested. We have been out once but it was with her 2 cousins and and her cousins boyfriend. Since that night I have suggested going out but she keeps saying she has too much college work and she's constantly tired from her work. I understand that she must be busy because she's trying to do a college course in 1 year but surely nobody can be busy 7 days a week for the past 5 months?? And the stranger thing is, she has told me she is falling for me. |
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Post by hulkblood on Dec 1, 2009 18:13:51 GMT -5
just ask her straight up man you dont wanna delay it too long or you may end up in the "friend zone" and that aint a good place to be cos if you end up there then theres no chance of any romance with this girl.
and if she says no then f*** it at you got an answer and can move on.
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Post by Cranjis McBasketball on Dec 1, 2009 18:21:51 GMT -5
Be careful what cards you play.
Even the showing you care card might be the wrong one.
I dunno. I saw this gal a couple times. She friend-zoned me pretty fast when I answer her insane questions the "correct" way.
Now, she's dating some other dude instead.
Oh well, tis for the best anyway. Just disappointed either way.
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Post by Brandon Walsh is Insane. on Dec 1, 2009 18:27:03 GMT -5
Sounds like she knows you'll give her attention when others won't... I'd cut my losses if I were in that situation.
She probably said she was 'falling for you' because she felt you slipping away, and needed you there for whenever wasn't getting the proper attention from other avenues. You're her text buddy, nothing more, nothing less. So either embrace it, or move on. Up to you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 18:31:48 GMT -5
I usually play this card and works all the time for me. Just don't text her till she texts first. If she does text first really soon. Don't text back for couple of hours. Most girls just love attention or drama even if it's negative.
Let Tom Cruise in a deleted scene in Magnolia explain it to you.
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Post by "Sweet & Sour" ImSoFudginGreat on Dec 2, 2009 10:04:33 GMT -5
Cheers for the help guys, I text her last night goodnight and saying I wanted to speak like Ox suggested, she text back around 2 hours ago saying she's not mad, its not like she's my girlfriend or anything. I just said I want to give is a go, but i've had enough of only seeing her briefly on a weekend. She hasn't text back as it was the end of the break so i'll see what I get back. I've played the honesty card so if she doesn't reply i'm just gonna cut my losses. Thanks again  |
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Post by markdown474 on Dec 2, 2009 11:28:13 GMT -5
Cheers for the help guys, I text her last night goodnight and saying I wanted to speak like Ox suggested, she text back around 2 hours ago saying she's not mad, its not like she's my girlfriend or anything. I just said I want to give is a go, but i've had enough of only seeing her briefly on a weekend. She hasn't text back as it was the end of the break so i'll see what I get back. I've played the honesty card so if she doesn't reply i'm just gonna cut my losses. Thanks again Good luck man! Most of us have been there and god knows I have (right down to the part about lying about having a date). If she's not interested and you do cut her loose, you will be amazed at how liberating that will feel! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2009 12:13:22 GMT -5
Cut her loose. She's too busy with school and work. If she wanted you she'd make time. Next time rely on the D.E.N.N.I.S. method. It works every time.  |
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Post by i.Sarita.com on Dec 2, 2009 12:39:40 GMT -5
She's probably dating other people too.
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Post by B.B.M on Dec 2, 2009 12:48:16 GMT -5
What is this, the eighth time, you've tried to chat someone up this year
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Post by "Sweet & Sour" ImSoFudginGreat on Dec 2, 2009 13:50:43 GMT -5
What is this, the eighth time, you've tried to chat someone up this year Its all been the same person. She's caused me this much crap and yet I still wanna get with her. I'm a glutton for punishment. |
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Post by Grendel on Dec 2, 2009 14:34:45 GMT -5
What is this, the eighth time, you've tried to chat someone up this year Its all been the same person. She's caused me this much crap and yet I still wanna get with her. I'm a glutton for punishment. I can tell you from past experience that while persistence has it's merits, the punishment isn't always worth it. I've taken bushel loads of crap from someone who I thought was worth it, only to find out in the end she wasn't. Long story short, once we decided to date each other, it wasn't a week before she f***ed one of my friends. I didn't hate him though, as he didn't know and it was his birthday after all ... But I did dodge a bullet, as she turned out to be a total flake. But I am the last person who should advise you. If that little voice of reason in the back of your head tells you that this is a bad idea, I suggest listening to it. Can save you a lot of misery in the long run. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2009 14:47:54 GMT -5
Yeah, adoration is the opposite of knowledge.
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Post by dabossftw on Dec 2, 2009 15:42:28 GMT -5
Good luck, fellow Crapper.
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