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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 11:39:58 GMT -5
Forget that noise. Here is a song that might lead you to the right way.... No bullshit, Young MC is straight philosophizing on this track. Learn it. Know it. Live it.
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Post by "I'm Batman..." on Oct 5, 2014 11:54:07 GMT -5
I wish someone would go out with me too.
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Post by Zaq "That Guy" Buzzkill on Oct 5, 2014 12:04:38 GMT -5
Well, this is a thread that is happening.
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Post by chazraps on Oct 5, 2014 12:19:29 GMT -5
If you masturbate you are not asexual. That's why I'm hoping to stop. Maybe this time, my sexuality will go away (I can only hope), and I can finally get the freak over it. It's passé, so dreary, so dumb. My libido is nothing more than a stupid drug-like dopamine-cycle. Hopefully, this piece of crap is overwith. ASR all the way! Maybe you should just start respecting women? Like, increase the female presence in your life. From what you've written about females, your take on them and their worth is weirdly dehumanized.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 12:23:40 GMT -5
Little advocacy of the devil's persuasion...
I'm a virgin myself. I don't want to be, however I've also not tried as hard as I could to change it. Lots of factors go into it, but mainly I was a personality-less dweeb for the first 23 years of my life, and now that I've got one I'm crazy overweight and got no confidence in myself physically. And I'm working on that now, and it will come. I do not want to and I will not give up.
HOWEVER, I see my friends sometimes man, being pissy about not getting laid at the end of the night, or like my buddy, he's engaged, and he's whining to me constnatly about only having sex 2-3 times a week. And it's like this shit is a drug, and it messes with peoples' heads. And with my own addictive personality that gravitates towards other things...I don' tknow, I sometimes I wonder if I'm better off without sex.
But no, I'm not. I can just understand that thought though.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 12:33:54 GMT -5
You've confused "flirting" with "being a creep" I think. Seriously, if you think all women are impossible concepts then the likelihood is you lack the social awareness/education to know they're human beings, and that you blaming that (and therefore women) for your own lack of confidence then, well, you need to get your head up out of the sand and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Talk to women, if you struggle with that then have a few social engagements in person with a lot of people, mingle -not for dates, learn to respect and care without wanting to f***- until you can hold a conversation without doubting yourself. If it's really difficult for you to deal with women, and you're fine talking to men after such mingling that's a different kettle of fish, and a lot more worrying. Also, you can't teach any form of sexuality, that's some bizarre pseudo-science logic thrown around in the media ("GAYS TURNING YOUNG PEOPLE INTO GAYS!"), from what you've told us in this thread you are heterosexual, just because you haven't had sex doesn't mean you're asexual. Asexuality can be researched online so you can get a better grasp of what it is, here you go www.asexuality.org/home/ You won't have actual asexual people rolling their eyes at you afterwards.
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Post by chazraps on Oct 5, 2014 12:34:07 GMT -5
Little advocacy of the devil's persuasion... I'm a virgin myself. I don't want to be, however I've also not tried as hard as I could to change it. Lots of factors go into it, but mainly I was a personality-less dweeb for the first 23 years of my life, and now that I've got one I'm crazy overweight and got no confidence in myself physically. And I'm working on that now, and it will come. I do not want to and I will not give up.You tried DDP Yoga? Serious question, but I know so many people who've been in your position and it really helped turn their health around.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 12:42:39 GMT -5
Little advocacy of the devil's persuasion... I'm a virgin myself. I don't want to be, however I've also not tried as hard as I could to change it. Lots of factors go into it, but mainly I was a personality-less dweeb for the first 23 years of my life, and now that I've got one I'm crazy overweight and got no confidence in myself physically. And I'm working on that now, and it will come. I do not want to and I will not give up.You tried DDP Yoga? Serious question, but I know so many people who've been in your position and it really helped turn their health around. Even just do it whenever you can. I had back/knee problems last year and I work very physical jobs and it really helped my back and knee. That's my testimonial to DDP Yoga. It'll also kick your ass without the very real soreness you usually get after the gym.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 12:44:25 GMT -5
Little advocacy of the devil's persuasion... I'm a virgin myself. I don't want to be, however I've also not tried as hard as I could to change it. Lots of factors go into it, but mainly I was a personality-less dweeb for the first 23 years of my life, and now that I've got one I'm crazy overweight and got no confidence in myself physically. And I'm working on that now, and it will come. I do not want to and I will not give up.You tried DDP Yoga? Serious question, but I know so many people who've been in your position and it really helped turn their health around. I have, got the fist 2 DVDs last year. It did really well for me initially, but the nutrition plan was too restrictive and I ended up falling off pretty hard. I've been diagnosed with binge eating disorder, and I'm in treatment right now, and it's important that I don't deny myself of certain foods, instead learning to have them in moderation. DDP's nutrition plan has a ton of "don'ts". Now that I'm figuring out an exercise regimen, I'm going to work the DDP Yoga back in but only on the exercise side, and add in some walking and light weight training.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 13:47:34 GMT -5
Even if you get beyond the asexuality not being something you can just achieve wrongheadedness, blaming women for the fact that you suck at talking to them is just hilariously stupid. Remember, I'm not blaming women. I'm blaming myself for being interested in them. I accept that blame, and I hope to fix it. This is 100% on me. The desire here is what sucks. Desire is a nasty thing. Desire for junk food, desire for alcohol, desire for drugs, all this freakin desire. I also acknowledge that I might not end up as awesome as the real asexuals, and I would be a cheap imitation. At best, I guess I could be synthetic, and maybe it could be dormant.
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Post by chazraps on Oct 5, 2014 13:59:36 GMT -5
You tried DDP Yoga? Serious question, but I know so many people who've been in your position and it really helped turn their health around. I have, got the fist 2 DVDs last year. It did really well for me initially, but the nutrition plan was too restrictive and I ended up falling off pretty hard. I've been diagnosed with binge eating disorder, and I'm in treatment right now, and it's important that I don't deny myself of certain foods, instead learning to have them in moderation. DDP's nutrition plan has a ton of "don'ts". Now that I'm figuring out an exercise regimen, I'm going to work the DDP Yoga back in but only on the exercise side, and add in some walking and light weight training. Glad to hear you're working it back in. Also, have you tried high-intensity interval training?
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Post by chazraps on Oct 5, 2014 14:02:50 GMT -5
Even if you get beyond the asexuality not being something you can just achieve wrongheadedness, blaming women for the fact that you suck at talking to them is just hilariously stupid. Remember, I'm not blaming women. I'm blaming myself for being interested in them. I accept that blame, and I hope to fix it. This is 100% on me. The desire here is what sucks. Desire is a nasty thing. Desire for junk food, desire for alcohol, desire for drugs, all this freakin desire. I also acknowledge that I might not end up as awesome as the real asexuals, and I would be a cheap imitation. At best, I guess I could be synthetic, and maybe it could be dormant. If you don't want to have sex, use the term "celibate." Asexuality is something you're born as, celibacy is a choice. And the fact that you're equating women as a whole with potentially destructive vices is absurd. I really suggest re-reading every post in this thread and realize how you sound to people.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 16:24:48 GMT -5
Even if you get beyond the asexuality not being something you can just achieve wrongheadedness, blaming women for the fact that you suck at talking to them is just hilariously stupid. Remember, I'm not blaming women. I'm blaming myself for being interested in them. I accept that blame, and I hope to fix it. This is 100% on me. The desire here is what sucks. Desire is a nasty thing. Desire for junk food, desire for alcohol, desire for drugs, all this freakin desire. I also acknowledge that I might not end up as awesome as the real asexuals, and I would be a cheap imitation. At best, I guess I could be synthetic, and maybe it could be dormant.
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Post by revolver86 on Oct 5, 2014 18:11:21 GMT -5
Remember, I'm not blaming women. I'm blaming myself for being interested in them. I accept that blame, and I hope to fix it. This is 100% on me. The desire here is what sucks. Desire is a nasty thing. Desire for junk food, desire for alcohol, desire for drugs, all this freakin desire. I also acknowledge that I might not end up as awesome as the real asexuals, and I would be a cheap imitation. At best, I guess I could be synthetic, and maybe it could be dormant. If you don't want to have sex, use the term "celibate." Asexuality is something you're born as, celibacy is a choice. And the fact that you're equating women as a whole with potentially destructive vices is absurd. I really suggest re-reading every post in this thread and realize how you sound to people. I think he's trying to say that the desire for them is the vice, not the people themselves. I have a ton of female friends. I don't want to f*** all of them (though I have f***ed a few). I think this guy is just frustrated over his libido. I've been there. The noise your mind creates when you're not getting laid can set you back, in a way, from taking care of yourself which could help.get you laid, in the first place. It can create a vicious cycle similar to obesity and addiction. Trust me, I know.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 19:17:12 GMT -5
The fact that you think no woman would date you is exactly why no woman will date you.
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Post by Jeff Mangum PI on Oct 5, 2014 19:36:30 GMT -5
Women don't think being asked out is creepy; being creepy is creepy.
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Post by metylerca on Oct 5, 2014 19:51:43 GMT -5
I just learned new things about posters in this thread that give new insight into why they post the way they do. Thank you, awkward thread.
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Post by xCompackx on Oct 5, 2014 19:56:50 GMT -5
This has probably been said already but your problem isn't that you're horny all the time, it's that (based on your original post) you seem to want a relationship for just sex. There's nothing wrong with wanting sex or even having more hormones than average, but if you just want sex from a woman, that's something to address.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 21:56:43 GMT -5
The fact that you think no woman would date you is exactly why no woman will date you. That, and I've made no attempt to get a date since around 2008/2009. For the purposes of this, porn and sex are one and the same, as far as my libido is concerned. I feel in order to reduce or eliminate the porn, I also have to discard the sex with it. No porn means no sex. Same brainwaves, same deal, even if they are far different scenarios. This has probably been said already but your problem isn't that you're horny all the time, it's that (based on your original post) you seem to want a relationship for just sex. There's nothing wrong with wanting sex or even having more hormones than average, but if you just want sex from a woman, that's something to address. Heck, it's not just about sex, the desire is there to cuddle too, and be close to someone. I don't care about virginity per se, just the instinct to be close to a woman.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2014 22:16:08 GMT -5
I have, got the fist 2 DVDs last year. It did really well for me initially, but the nutrition plan was too restrictive and I ended up falling off pretty hard. I've been diagnosed with binge eating disorder, and I'm in treatment right now, and it's important that I don't deny myself of certain foods, instead learning to have them in moderation. DDP's nutrition plan has a ton of "don'ts". Now that I'm figuring out an exercise regimen, I'm going to work the DDP Yoga back in but only on the exercise side, and add in some walking and light weight training. Glad to hear you're working it back in. Also, have you tried high-intensity interval training? I'm not quite sure what that is, I feel lke I've done something similar on an eliptical but I may be way off.
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