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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2017 4:35:47 GMT -5
What do you have to offer a woman?
I've heard tons about your negatives, but what are the positives? What are the good things about you?
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Post by Mozenrath on Mar 23, 2017 5:29:43 GMT -5
I've never been in a relationship. I've never been anywhere near close to being in a relationship. And reading this thread has just reaffirmed to me that it will never happen. Why is that your takeaway? What do you have to offer a woman? I've heard tons about your negatives, but what are the positives? What are the good things about you? This is pretty paramount, and something that women sometimes overlook, too, just less often. A relationship isn't going to save someone from themselves, and you can't rely on it to complete you, either. You also can't exactly expect a woman to take you on as a fixer-upper. That's a gamble they just aren't going to jump at the chance to take. Sell yourself, find what you like about yourself, and focus on that. |
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Post by "Gizzark" Mike Wronglevenay on Mar 23, 2017 9:02:09 GMT -5
You also can't exactly expect a woman to take you on as a fixer-upper. That's a gamble they just aren't going to jump at the chance to take. In fact, any woman who did hop on with that in mind would be toxic for you anyway. |
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Post by Mozenrath on Mar 23, 2017 9:09:31 GMT -5
You also can't exactly expect a woman to take you on as a fixer-upper. That's a gamble they just aren't going to jump at the chance to take. In fact, any woman who did hop on with that in mind would be toxic for you anyway. Precisely, if they just wanted to mold you into something else. Obviously, I'm not talking about something where maybe two people were friends, and then lovers, and oh, one person helps the other person get through rehab or whatever. That'd be something else entirely, I'm talking about people who meet and it goes right into savior mode. Man or woman, that's not a healthy attitude, since they don't even really know who you are, so they're not so much trying to save anyone, they're picking and choosing some preferred traits and molding the rest of them by scratch. |
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Post by "Magic" Mark Hurr on Mar 23, 2017 13:20:52 GMT -5
A lot of great advice in this thread. Epsecially when it comes to self discovery.
I've shared my experiences in the past on this board, and one thing i realized was that when i was younger my knowledge overshadowed my desire. Not saying that knowledge made me smarter, but pessimistic. When you are younger, you surrounded by a "do what it takes" attitude, or "get them before they get you". Which is screwed up, but environment can manipulte behavior. I knew many females who made no bones about being opportunistic and my guy friends led with a sex early mentality. If you tried to initiate a relationship in a respectful way, you'd be less trusted. Now without anyone to give me the game of seeing throught that bullshit, I had to learn a lot about myself and reprogram my outlook on women and dating. I'm not upset of my relationships in my younger years because the foundations were going to be fruitful in the long run. All of my firends who are either dating or married have been with spouses for years. It' sa matter of finding someone you can build with and evolves as a person. Everyone has their hang ups, it's about selfrespect and respecting the person you are with. Most importantly, we're all just human.
In relation to the OP, you have to do something about your dispositon. I knew that if i didn't believe in what i doing that i would be ultimately disconnectd. And that everything is a process. The options men and women have are all about perception. Your options can be based on sheer existance or persistance to become more. You have to build and create. Turn anxiety into becoming adventurous. I'm 6 feet, but i'm not 6'5. Though i've seen height not matter. I have a job that pays the bills, but I ain't balling. I'm a husky guy, and i know some women would rather deal with the short comings of an in shape guy. Though I've lived either one of those not matter. I'm a creative guy so i don't get to excited over another person's ability to be creative. I'm more in tune with what it takes feed that creativity and it has little to do with the desire and impress people they don't know. This works for me and against me depending on the woman's personality.
Overall, I wanted my personal situtaion to reflect what my intentions were. Put yourself in postion to travel and experience different thought processes first hand. The only issue that is works againts all of us is that life in such an accelerated pace that people are gonna have to want to pump the breaks and build something from the ground up. My current situation is kind of like that. This woman is very involved and we have conflicting schedueles. the only thing that works in both of our favor is that with live in the close to each other. I apprached her first in a non-romantic way and just talked to her like it we were already cool. It was about not making her feel uncomfortable around me since we'll see each other regardless if we want to. She ended up asking me out first. In the past my relationships didn't work because i wasn't sold on how they started.
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Post by Bo Rida on Mar 23, 2017 15:54:18 GMT -5
Stop thinking women don't like introverts.
As we seem to be talking in broad strokes in this thread being an introvert means you can be a good listener that notices more details in the world/people around you. Both of those things can be huge advantages.
Extroverted women and introverted men can also make good couples as they balance each other out.
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Post by ShaolinHandLock on Mar 24, 2017 5:54:49 GMT -5
I've never been in a relationship. I've never been anywhere near close to being in a relationship. And reading this thread has just reaffirmed to me that it will never happen. Why is that your takeaway? I should have mentioned that it wasn't just this thread, but the 'What You Look for in a Partner' thread that reaffirmed the fact that I'll never have a relationship. As for why? I'd rather not talk about it. |
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Post by The Unconquered Sun on Mar 24, 2017 8:29:32 GMT -5
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Post by No Name is needed Bro Beans on Mar 24, 2017 10:09:00 GMT -5
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Post by Fauxnaki on Mar 24, 2017 12:24:50 GMT -5
Im just finding it hard to find a girl that will slap me about and call me names
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2017 12:33:18 GMT -5
Im just finding it hard to find a girl that will slap me about and call me names Just think on how Noam Dar would pronounce her name and do that. |
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Mar 24, 2017 15:57:18 GMT -5
It just seems that I'm starting to feel really bitter about never being with anyone especially at my age where probably the vast majority of guys have been in one by now. I've tried online dating but it just seems that if you're short & don't work an ideal job you're pretty much screwed with it. I even made a profile on one of the paid dating sites & almost every profile I came across eliminated me from their height preference or wanted a guy making good money. I just don't get how I'm supposed to meet anyone as well when it seems everyone just keeps to themselves these days. It just seems no one interacts with one another anymore due to smartphones & a lot of people only caring about themselves these days. My social circle is almost non existent as well these days except for a few friends I text with that don't live near me anymore. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do at this point. I don't even think I'm bad looking outside of being short & introverted which a lot of women just seem to not like at all. I just get really angry & bitter when I'm by myself a lot of the time though where I'm just angry that it seems so easy for others to get into relationships somehow yet I've never even been in one. You never know when and/or where you will meet the right person for ya. In my mid 30s,and after a few bad relationships,I met my current lady. And at the time I had hit rock bottom. Had lost my mind,was sent to a mental hospital for help,had lost my career. But this angel in scrubs saw thru all that and wanted to be with me. We have been together since Nov 2007 and it is great. Just never give up looking. I thought I would never find another lady and I did. |
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Post by psychokiller on Mar 24, 2017 16:08:55 GMT -5
It just seems that I'm starting to feel really bitter about never being with anyone especially at my age where probably the vast majority of guys have been in one by now. I've tried online dating but it just seems that if you're short & don't work an ideal job you're pretty much screwed with it. I even made a profile on one of the paid dating sites & almost every profile I came across eliminated me from their height preference or wanted a guy making good money. I just don't get how I'm supposed to meet anyone as well when it seems everyone just keeps to themselves these days. It just seems no one interacts with one another anymore due to smartphones & a lot of people only caring about themselves these days. My social circle is almost non existent as well these days except for a few friends I text with that don't live near me anymore. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do at this point. I don't even think I'm bad looking outside of being short & introverted which a lot of women just seem to not like at all. I just get really angry & bitter when I'm by myself a lot of the time though where I'm just angry that it seems so easy for others to get into relationships somehow yet I've never even been in one. You never know when and/or where you will meet the right person for ya. In my mid 30s,and after a few bad relationships,I met my current lady. And at the time I had hit rock bottom. Had lost my mind,was sent to a mental hospital for help,had lost my career. But this angel in scrubs saw thru all that and wanted to be with me. We have been together since Nov 2007 and it is great. Just never give up looking. I thought I would never find another lady and I did. That's awesome. So was she a worker at the hospital you were at since that's what I assumed when you mentioned angel in scrubs? |
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Post by Ultimo Gallos on Mar 24, 2017 16:20:25 GMT -5
You never know when and/or where you will meet the right person for ya. In my mid 30s,and after a few bad relationships,I met my current lady. And at the time I had hit rock bottom. Had lost my mind,was sent to a mental hospital for help,had lost my career. But this angel in scrubs saw thru all that and wanted to be with me. We have been together since Nov 2007 and it is great. Just never give up looking. I thought I would never find another lady and I did. That's awesome. So was she a worker at the hospital you were at since that's what I assumed when you mentioned angel in scrubs? She was in college and doing her student pharmacist work at the mental hospital. She is now a pharmacist. |
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