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Post by AFN: Judge Shred on Dec 23, 2013 19:03:49 GMT -5
It may be unpopular, but my opinion is social anxiety is not a reason or an excuse, it is an obstacle that must be overcome. I have plenty, myself.... but when it comes down to it, when I don't do something I should have done... it's because I f***ed up. Not because I have a disorder, not because of anxiety, not because of any sort of mental issue.... whether I have a tendency towards it or not, doesn't matter. Plain and simple, I f***ed up. Not saying the OP falls into this, but I get tired of people who are diagnosed with anxiety or something to the like then sit back and use it as an all-encompassing reason why the world needs to cut them some slack and deal with them. It turns into "I can be an asshole because of my disease, and if you have any problems with that, you're intolerant." ... no, I am of the opinion that the job of someone with a mental issue is to do everything they can to limit the damage to others and contribute to society as much and as normally as possible. Good days, bad days, that's par for the course... they'll happen and some will be more debilitating than others, but the job is to pull yourself up as soon as possible and get back out there. Granted, this may be an "easy for you to say" thing since mine isn't as bad as I think it is, and there are some people whose minds are SO f***ed up that they are beyond useless through no fault of their own. But, for too many, it seems to become an easy excuse to allow them to coast through lives doing whatever or however little they want and blame it on their issues then feel justified when they complain that nobody is helping them the way they feel they deserve to be helped. Like I say, social anxiety aside.... if I miss a deadline, if I screw up, if something happens because I was too afraid to put myself out there.... bottom line I.... f***ED... UP. Not my issue, not lack of help, not even lack of motivation... all reasons and excuses go out the window. I screwed up because I screwed up. To over come those problems you first have to identify them. That is really important to remember.
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Post by Blindkarevik on Dec 23, 2013 19:07:11 GMT -5
It may be unpopular, but my opinion is social anxiety is not a reason or an excuse, it is an obstacle that must be overcome. I have plenty, myself.... but when it comes down to it, when I don't do something I should have done... it's because I f***ed up. Not because I have a disorder, not because of anxiety, not because of any sort of mental issue.... whether I have a tendency towards it or not, doesn't matter. Plain and simple, I f***ed up. Not saying the OP falls into this, but I get tired of people who are diagnosed with anxiety or something to the like then sit back and use it as an all-encompassing reason why the world needs to cut them some slack and deal with them. It turns into "I can be an asshole because of my disease, and if you have any problems with that, you're intolerant." ... no, I am of the opinion that the job of someone with a mental issue is to do everything they can to limit the damage to others and contribute to society as much and as normally as possible. Good days, bad days, that's par for the course... they'll happen and some will be more debilitating than others, but the job is to pull yourself up as soon as possible and get back out there. Granted, this may be an "easy for you to say" thing since mine isn't as bad as I think it is, and there are some people whose minds are SO f***ed up that they are beyond useless through no fault of their own. But, for too many, it seems to become an easy excuse to allow them to coast through lives doing whatever or however little they want and blame it on their issues then feel justified when they complain that nobody is helping them the way they feel they deserve to be helped. Like I say, social anxiety aside.... if I miss a deadline, if I screw up, if something happens because I was too afraid to put myself out there.... bottom line I.... f***ED... UP. Not my issue, not lack of help, not even lack of motivation... all reasons and excuses go out the window. I screwed up because I screwed up. To over come those problems you first have to identify them. That is really important to remember. Definitely.. and I'm not saying professional help isn't necessary. I'm not even saying people don't need help recognizing them. I just know too many people who are diagnosed with social anxiety, then immediately say "Wow, that's why I can't be employed." Then immediately file for disability...
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Post by Baldobomb-22-OH-MAN!!! on Dec 23, 2013 21:05:03 GMT -5
To over come those problems you first have to identify them. That is really important to remember. Definitely.. and I'm not saying professional help isn't necessary. I'm not even saying people don't need help recognizing them. I just know too many people who are diagnosed with social anxiety, then immediately say "Wow, that's why I can't be employed." Then immediately file for disability... I don't think you CAN file for disability for that. not unless it's like super severe anxiety, in which case there are probably other problems like schizophrenia, too.
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Post by Blindkarevik on Dec 24, 2013 0:06:42 GMT -5
Definitely.. and I'm not saying professional help isn't necessary. I'm not even saying people don't need help recognizing them. I just know too many people who are diagnosed with social anxiety, then immediately say "Wow, that's why I can't be employed." Then immediately file for disability... I don't think you CAN file for disability for that. not unless it's like super severe anxiety, in which case there are probably other problems like schizophrenia, too. You'd be surprised what people get away with sometimes. I suppose it differs from state to state, but I've had people actually say the reason they can't work is because they have a problem with authority. All you really need is a psychiatrist to say "yeah, you're a whack-job, here's a shit-ton of meds," and some people will take that to mean they are a special case who don't have to do shit from that point on. I honestly think if the Downs Syndrome boy down the block can bag groceries and corral carts at the grocery store, you should be able to do something regardless of your mental state.
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Post by J is Thunder Justice on Dec 24, 2013 0:51:00 GMT -5
Definitely.. and I'm not saying professional help isn't necessary. I'm not even saying people don't need help recognizing them. I just know too many people who are diagnosed with social anxiety, then immediately say "Wow, that's why I can't be employed." Then immediately file for disability... I don't think you CAN file for disability for that. I receive disability allowance for my social phobia (I said social anxiety earlier, but it's actually phobia, which is worse).
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Post by Raskovnik on Dec 24, 2013 1:08:05 GMT -5
I wish that one post didn't get deleted or removed because it was absolutely true and needed to be said.
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AFN: Judge Shred
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Post by AFN: Judge Shred on Dec 24, 2013 3:21:12 GMT -5
I wish that one post didn't get deleted or removed because it was absolutely true and needed to be said. This is a thread made by a guy asking for help. That post was not help, it was an attack. And enough other similar things have been said. It'd be much better if we tried to help a guy asking for it, rather than tearing him down. This is some similar to when I have seen alcoholics ask for help. They get support from some and torn down by others.
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Post by Raskovnik on Dec 24, 2013 3:24:34 GMT -5
I wish that one post didn't get deleted or removed because it was absolutely true and needed to be said. This is a thread made by a guy asking for help. That post was not help, it was an attack. And enough other similar things have been said. It'd be much better if we tried to help a guy asking for it, rather than tearing him down. This is some similar to when I have seen alcoholics ask for help. They get support from some and torn down by others. You're not even wrong. It's just a sore subject with me for personal reasons and I agreed with everything that guy said.
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Post by AFN: Judge Shred on Dec 24, 2013 3:34:02 GMT -5
This is a thread made by a guy asking for help. That post was not help, it was an attack. And enough other similar things have been said. It'd be much better if we tried to help a guy asking for it, rather than tearing him down. This is some similar to when I have seen alcoholics ask for help. They get support from some and torn down by others. You're not even wrong. It's just a sore subject with me for personal reasons and I agreed with everything that guy said. And that is fair, been there, done that myself, but it sounds like the topic creator has already made the realization and is at least trying to make baby steps to changing.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2014 22:17:57 GMT -5
So...yeah. I posted this on my FB, but...not good update.
I need to get something off my chest, something's that been bugging me for a little bit now...actually, a little longer than I would like to think. But, it's time to throw it out into the open. Everybody knows me as Kevin, or even by my last name, "Friskey", the eccentric and lively go-getter who spouts out Simpsons lines line they're made out of bubble gum and has run into a glass door as a passionate (yet idiotic) plea of a pro wrestling company.
But of course, that's always been me. That's just the outside me. The inside me, is a different story. A very different story. Inside, you can't even tell it's me. And...that's a problem. A very big problem.
I'm selfish, I'm lazy, and I pretty much only revolve around myself and the things I want to do when it should be about the things that others want to do or need. It's mostly why I want to help others than help myself. I don't want to help myself. I'm afraid to help myself because of some of the things I've done.
I just turned 27 years old, and never in my life have I had a job. That's not because of the economy or school or anything. I'm just really f***ing lazy. I've been coddled all of my life. I moved with my brother back in March of last year, and even then I haven't done a thing to change my life, and it's all on me. But that's changing. I have to change. And me changing involves me doing some soul searching. And that involves me stepping away from the things I love and the friends I enjoy acquainting my company with. I know I don't want to do this on my own, but I have to. I dug a grave already and I need to crawl out of it before it's too late and I get stuck for the rest of my life.
I've made too many mistakes to last a lifetime, and those mistakes cost me some of the things that mean the most to me. And I'm to fault for every one of those mistakes, and until I can be at peace with myself about it, I can't be around the people I care about right now. And for that, I'm sincerely sorry. From the bottom of my heart.
I just want to focus on myself right now. I'm deleting about 99% of my social media, I'm probably getting rid of Twitter, and I'm also deleting my profile here (and one day, I'll probably be back. I'll start from scratch if I have to. So yeah, make the jokes. I don't care) but I'll keep Facebook up since most of you are still on there and I don't feel like starting from scratch here.
If anybody wants to talk to me, I guess feel free. I'll still be on FB...I'm not going anywhere. I just...I need some time. I hope everybody can understand. I love you all.
-Friskey
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AFN: Judge Shred
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Post by AFN: Judge Shred on Jan 26, 2014 22:45:56 GMT -5
Take care, Kevin. I will look forward to the day you let us know you found your inner peace. Good luck, my friend.
On a side note, I hated reading this now. Only a few days after the anniversary of Deadpool/Jason's death. I felt it in my throat.
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Post by The Man They Call Asher on Jan 26, 2014 22:50:01 GMT -5
Best of luck to ya, buddy.
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