I'm turning 27 and I've never had a job before...

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...and it's starting to take it's toll on the person I love the most. Yet, no matter how many "wake-up calls" I get, or how many times we yell at each other about (which is a daily thing now), I just stay the same person I am on the inside. I know I need a job, no matter what, and I've been trying to do that, to no avail (even though that's mostly my fault) and with it being so close to Xmas now, I thought it was just best to wait until the new year and then restart, but...the girlfriend doesn't believe that I'll do such a thing. She lost all of her trust on me, and admits to pretty much being spoiled and coasting through things. I'll admit that some of it is true...mostly because I've just had a good streak...just because I've lived so long in this type of bubble, no matter what she says, I never live up to it. This has been ringing true for the entire year, but lately (like the last couple of months), it's becoming more of a problem.

Any advice? I'm coming to you, because I put my faith in you all. I just need help. Need a bit of guidance.

[Killah Ray]

Any particular reason you're 27 and never had a job?

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Dec 21, 2013 17:18:15 GMT -5 Killah Ray said:

Any particular reason you're 27 and never had a job?

A mix of social anxiety and the fact that I've been a little spoiled from family. I moved with my brother to Harrisburg in March to try and get things in order, but I haven't done anything to show for it. Yeah, I'm a dick sometimes. :/

[Talent Name]

I was in a similar situation but at 26. What got me motivated was my parents charging me rent, if I didn't pay I would be evicted, find something that motivates you. If you feel you and girlfriend are going to be together for a very long it DO IT FOR HER not you HER. Each person needs their motivation find it and you will be okay

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Do you have any degrees or certificates?

[Amazing Kitsune]

Pushing off searching until next years sounds like you're making excuses, even if you're not. If your social anxiety is severe enough to prevent you from entering the workforce, then I'd say it might be a problem. You need to consider getting help if it is.

You need to get a job. You need to stop making excuses. You'll be happier for it, even if it's not something you enjoy.

I don't know you--nor do I know your exact situation. This is just my opinion on the matter

[Malcolm]

I'm 27 and I've only really had 1 real job. It's not from a lack of trying, mind you. It's so depressing when McDonald's won't hire you(or even give you an interview).

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Dec 21, 2013 17:33:45 GMT -5 @irontyger said:

Do you have any degrees or certificates?

No. Just a HS diploma.

[PKO]

You could start with some volunteer work. Helps a worthy cause, gets you experience in a work environment, builds confidence and gets you into a routine. Plus, paid jobs occasionally come up.

[Matt]

Try a temp agency.

[BigBadZ]

Have you put in any applications at all?? If not, the fact that you put some in might go a long way with your girlfriend. Realistically, putting in applications at this point, you probably wouldn't get hired anywhere before the new year anyway.

On a separate note, do you have any jobs or fields you are interested in working?? Maybe consider a work from home type job?

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Dec 21, 2013 18:12:56 GMT -5 BigBadZ said:

Have you put in any applications at all?? If not, the fact that you put some in might go a long way with your girlfriend. Realistically, putting in applications at this point, you probably wouldn't get hired anywhere before the new year anyway.

On a separate note, do you have any jobs or fields you are interested in working?? Maybe consider a work from home type job?

I've put in more than my fair share of applications, but just haven't gotten any call backs. Sure, calling a couple would help in the long run.

As far as looking for something, I'm just looking for anything at this point. Shit, I'll take a McDonalds job (a field that I refused to do).

[Deleted]

I would reccomend freelance writing jobs.

I was struggling to find a job and took it up and made some good money and still do.

Can also try stuff like data entry.

[BigBadZ]

Dec 21, 2013 18:16:22 GMT -5 @teamkillswitch said:

Dec 21, 2013 18:12:56 GMT -5 BigBadZ said:

Have you put in any applications at all?? If not, the fact that you put some in might go a long way with your girlfriend. Realistically, putting in applications at this point, you probably wouldn't get hired anywhere before the new year anyway.

On a separate note, do you have any jobs or fields you are interested in working?? Maybe consider a work from home type job?

I've put in more than my fair share of applications, but just haven't gotten any call backs. Sure, calling a couple would help in the long run.

As far as looking for something, I'm just looking for anything at this point. Shit, I'll take a McDonalds job (a field that I refused to do).

Try career builder. I got a job in a Verizon call center through them and also got picked up at at CVS as a pharmacy tech through that site. More importantly, it put me in connection with multiple companies who place workers. You might could get a contract-to-hire job. Of course if it's not something you love, you might could use that company to find a different job that works best for you. But you can't know what's good for you without trying something first.

[Viva]

In short, grow up.

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Dec 21, 2013 19:11:16 GMT -5 BigBadZ said:

Dec 21, 2013 18:16:22 GMT -5 @teamkillswitch said:

I've put in more than my fair share of applications, but just haven't gotten any call backs. Sure, calling a couple would help in the long run.

As far as looking for something, I'm just looking for anything at this point. Shit, I'll take a McDonalds job (a field that I refused to do).

Try career builder. I got a job in a Verizon call center through them and also got picked up at at CVS as a pharmacy tech through that site. More importantly, it put me in connection with multiple companies who place workers. You might could get a contract-to-hire job. Of course if it's not something you love, you might could use that company to find a different job that works best for you. But you can't know what's good for you without trying something first.

I've been looking at sites like that, Snagajob, and Monster, yet I'm unsure about the qualifications to places like those.

I may go to a Vocational Rehab site to see about anything, due to my social anxiety and other problems in the head.

[suave]

I forget the name, but at a place I volunteer with there's a big organization that sent 10 or so people to work with us. Talking to them, the organization works with a bunch of events and charities and sends people to them. Signing up for that could get you some experience, and you could meet new people too. There could be something like that in your area.

[Kash Flagg]

You know I like ya man, so don't take this personally...

If you don't try harder at least to find a job, you're going to be single. You're already arguing daily, and she's growing to resent you for not getting a job. I'm only going by what you've written here.

So that should be a motivator if you really love her, because if not, you'll lose her. I hope for the best.

[mizerable]

I don't know if putting fear in you helps, but I can guarantee the older you get, the less interested someone is going to be in hiring someone with no job experience.

[RedSmile]

Enlist in the military. Seriously.